Introvert vs. Extrovert - general rambling

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Reply #176 - 2011 June 11, 12:43 am
bodhisamaya Guest

It is only a debate among those who want to attempt to be impartial and give equal weight to the Chinese argument.  Luckily we have the accounts of hundreds of thousands of Tibetan refugees from all classes who escaped into India and other surrounding nations to set the record straight.  There wasn't even a tax system in Tibet.  Citizens voluntarily lined up to give gifts to support the government.   Such was, and is, the love of the lamas by the people.

Reply #177 - 2011 June 11, 1:21 am
nadiatims Member
Registered: 2008-01-10 Posts: 1676

I think you're looking back at the old Tbet with incredibly rose coloured glasses. Tibet was a feudal theocracy. A tiny parasitic ruling class owned all the land and was able to use religion as a tool of control just like in medieval Europe. I've been to Tibet. The Potala, other palaces and grand monasteries occupied by the ruling class stand in stark contrast to the extremely poor villages you can see all over the countryside. Now you see young people zipping about Lhasa on scooters and talking on mobile phones, roads and other infrastructure has been built. The chinese are injecting massive funds to develop Tibet. I'm not justifying the Chinese occupation and the Communist party is massively corrupt and incompetent, but this idea of a buddhist paradise ruled by benevolent monks is bullshit.

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Reply #178 - 2011 June 11, 7:14 am
bodhisamaya Guest

It is nice you read all the propaganda put out by the government while you were in Lhasa.  Perhaps I can link you to some Nazi accounts where the Jews actually asked to be taken to the gas chambers?  Those who were alive before the Chinese occupation tell a very different story no matter what class they came from.  The head Llama at the Honolulu Dharma Center regularly visits Lhasa in disguise and has been to all the tourist spots, so I am well aware of the fiction perpetuated by the Chinese.

Those are Chinese who are zipping by on scooters having been sent in to gain a majority population in the region.  The Tibetans themselves have seen nothing of that money. Why would they to this day risk being shot by Chinese soldiers and endure the elements to cross the border and become refugees?

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Reply #179 - 2011 June 11, 7:59 am
Tzadeck Member
From: Kinki Registered: 2009-02-21 Posts: 2484

On the topics of monks, as well as Tibet...

When I was in college I was an Asian studies major.  I took a Buddhism course, and one of the professors was a Buddhist monk who had fled Tibet.  The guy was a huge dick and talked shit about other forms of Buddhism, and referred to Theravada Buddhism as Hinayana.  Later, my friend studied abroad in India and the monk went along as one of the professors; my friend filed several complaints about his behavior to the college.

Anyway, I'm going to Tibet this summer, so hopefully I can learn some things about the culture while I'm there.

One place where Buddhism really rubbed me the wrong way was Thailand, where Buddhism is sort of like Christianity in America.  People are really serious about it, but they do all of the bullshit without really taking away any of the wisdom.  My impression of the monks was that they were carrying along this awful system.

I guess when it comes down to it, I really just don't like religion.  Thank God (wink wink) Japan is barely religious at all.

(elhnad, I'll respond to your post when I have a bit longer to write)

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Reply #180 - 2011 June 11, 8:21 am
bodhisamaya Guest

Thailand does practice Hinayana Buddhism.  It just means they don't take the Bodhisattva vow and so try to achieve liberation for themselves alone.  So, they are very similar to Christians.  Other than the Honganji sect based in Kyoto (who also had warrior monks), I think the only other country that practices that form is Sri Lanka.  Though I have heard Thailand is edging more and more to the Mahayana view.  It would be rare for a monk to badmouth other religions in a teaching (or be a dick), but it can happen.  I was a monk for a while and I am far from enlightened, and often a dick.

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Reply #181 - 2011 June 11, 9:18 am
vonPeterhof Member
Registered: 2010-07-23 Posts: 376

I thought that Theravada was the prevalent school of Buddhism in all Southeast Asian countries except Vietnam and the countries where most Buddhists are Chinese (Singapore, Indonesia, etc.).

Reply #182 - 2011 June 11, 9:28 am
bodhisamaya Guest

All schools of thought have been trending towards the mahayana view as a result of debate between the lineages.

Reply #183 - 2011 June 29, 11:13 pm
six8ten Member
Registered: 2011-02-26 Posts: 106

More back on topic, just saw this article: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/26/opini … yness.html

Reply #184 - 2011 November 02, 5:41 pm
Raschaverak Member
From: Hungary Registered: 2008-12-30 Posts: 362

Ok, I have to admit it I have some serious problems. I thought I could control them, with mediation, whatever, but If you are thinking about suicide, just because you see your previous acquaintance's photos, on facebook, with friends, and smile, and realize that you are 26 years old, and never had a life, whatsoever....well at that point anyone has to admit it...and give in: I need help.
Fast, before it's too late.
Tomorrow I'm going for some medication. Now, I don't want to rely on that, but I don't see any other way. After a few weeks when the medicine will stabilize my mind, and I will be able to think clearly at least, I will go to non-drug therapy, and try to replace the drugs with it. I guess I need the medication first, since without it I'm practically non-responsive to any other therapy.
Sad... I was always asking myself: why me? No answer... this is like cancer, only in the soul, the mind. Oh, well...when all of this is over, and I will finally be healed.... be the way I'm supposed to be..I will write a damn book about my life. It will be worth reading smile

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Reply #185 - 2011 November 02, 6:12 pm
pudding cat Member
From: UK Registered: 2010-12-09 Posts: 497

@Raschaverak
I hope tomorrow you can get the help you're looking for.

Reply #186 - 2011 November 02, 8:13 pm
Tzadeck Member
From: Kinki Registered: 2009-02-21 Posts: 2484

Good luck Raschaverak!  You're doing the right thing getting help.


By the way, I recently realized that Stephen Fry's whole documentary about manic depression is on Youtube.  It has a lot of talk about the merits of medication, so it's relevant to this thread.  Stephen Fry is a smart guy, so it's pretty well thought-out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXkmb5s8Igc

Reply #187 - 2011 November 02, 8:20 pm
Harpagornes Member
From: Aotearoa Registered: 2011-07-08 Posts: 119 Website

@Raschaverak

Good luck..

I hope everything goes well. It sounds like you have been suffering for some years now. I look forward to reading your next post and finding out how you are getting on.

Here is an article written by Eric Kolvig, a meditation teacher who also suffers from depression. I found it interesting as he is someone with experience in both areas.
Crazy and Free

If you don't find it useful, just ignore. I thought his opinions on medication were sane and balanced.

Edit: Reread the article and see it doesn't mention medication. Basically he says it's a tool to be used wisely.

@Tzadeck
I caught the Stephen Fry doco on TV a couple of years ago and thought it was excellent. Good to hear it's on the net.

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Reply #188 - 2011 November 02, 9:50 pm
IceCream Closed Account
Registered: 2009-05-08 Posts: 3124

@Raschaverak: Great!! Good luck good luck!!

One thing you should be aware of is that you shouldn't just take the medication for a few weeks until you feel better. What you need to do, especially since you've had repeated episodes of depression now, is carry on taking them, EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL BETTER!!!

Doing this will protect you from more depressive episodes. If you stop taking them after a few weeks, it's unlikely to have a long term effect. But if you keep taking them even after you feel better, it's been shown that you will be less likely to relapse when you do come off them.

Another thing that i really want you to be prepared for, is that you may actually feel worse for a little while when you start taking them. So, if you feel suicidal, just ride it out, please!!! It will get better!!! big_smile

i really do think you're making a good decision. So stick with it and let us know how you get on. ^_^

p.s. thanks Tzadeck, that Steven Fry documentary looks interesting.

Last edited by IceCream (2011 November 02, 9:51 pm)

Reply #189 - 2011 November 03, 3:35 am
Javizy Member
From: England Registered: 2007-02-16 Posts: 770

I was wondering if anyone's looked at nutrition to help with depression. It's surely the most natural way to alter your brain chemistry, and there's a lot of evidence to support links between diet and depression. It's especially worth a look if you have any digestive issues like IBS or acid reflux; you could even have something like a B12 deficiency if you haven't been tested. In any case, I think it's important to try to give your biochemistry the best chance of maintaining some balance if you're going to take antidepressants, which can actually contribute towards the kind of imbalances that make some people susceptible to depression in the first place. It's worth at least reading the Wikipedia page for anything you're prescribed, so you at least know what to expect.

I've been eating a diet consisting mainly of meat, fish, vegetables, nuts and seeds in an effort to improve the muscle/nerve pain in my arms. I'm noticing less aching in the mornings, but a more noticeable benefit has been soaring energy levels. I've gone from needing to lay down in the afternoon and being pretty irritable and having a 'meh' outlook on everything, to feeling awake until bedtime, with a more relaxed and positive attitude. I'm not saying a depressed person can expect a complete turnaround, but to ignore the impact of diet on your health would be crazy.

It's worth noting that I've been successfully dealing with an overactive stress response as well, so my hormone levels are probably more balanced than they've been at any point in the last decade. The book Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers is a really detailed look at what stress can do to your body, and there's a chapter on depression as well. It can pretty much destroy you from the inside out, so it's worth reading the book if you find yourself slagging off your computer, worrying about the future, getting irritated in supermarket queues etc.

Reply #190 - 2011 November 03, 4:39 am
zachandhobbes Member
From: California Registered: 2010-07-31 Posts: 592

I don't know if this topic has digressed to something else, but here's my two cents.

I've been described as "quiet, but when he talks, it's always something worth hearing". I see most intoverts as being like that. We wait and listen, and then only speak when we have something important to say. Being an introvert doesn't mean being mute, it just means that we carefully think and consider a lot - perhaps this is our hamartia, overthinking like our good friend Hamlet, sitting in inaction, but it is also a strength, because only our most passionate thoughts end up getting out unlike our extroverted friends.

I don't think that being an introvert or extrovert is all just in your genes. It has a lot to do with your oppurtunities. When I was in elementary school, at my 'purest' you might say, I was the quiet kid, but I had good friends and had fun. I wasn't ever the crazy class clown, but I was kind of a jokester, albeit in my quiet way. In middle school, I became more popular, and thus my ego got inflated, and thus I became a lot more extroverted, saying a lot of stupid things all the time. Maybe I was just being a dumb teen.

In high school I came to a new place, with no friends. In my first years I reverted to my quiet self, and possibly even fell into depression, because I struggled going from my extrovert self to suddenly not being able to participate. Outside of the comfort of friends I'd had for years and years, feeling outside of the group, I had a really, really hard time getting into any sort of social interaction and made friends really slowly. It took me until senior year for me to really become more confident again, and it never was like when I was in middle school -- for better or for worse!

I ended up attending a few parties but I was never the life of them. I tried a few things and started to participate and talk more, but I wasn't the star of the campus and I wasn't an extrovert by any means... just somewhere in the middle.

So in my life I went from an introvert to an extrovert to an extreme introvert to a middle of the road... all because of my changing situation...

Life isn't hard and fast, I guess I'm trying to say ^_^

Reply #191 - 2011 November 03, 6:01 am
Raschaverak Member
From: Hungary Registered: 2008-12-30 Posts: 362

Javizy wrote:

I was wondering if anyone's looked at nutrition to help with depression. It's surely the most natural way to alter your brain chemistry, and there's a lot of evidence to support links between diet and depression. It's especially worth a look if you have any digestive issues like IBS or acid reflux; you could even have something like a B12 deficiency if you haven't been tested. In any case, I think it's important to try to give your biochemistry the best chance of maintaining some balance if you're going to take antidepressants, which can actually contribute towards the kind of imbalances that make some people susceptible to depression in the first place. It's worth at least reading the Wikipedia page for anything you're prescribed, so you at least know what to expect.

I've been eating a diet consisting mainly of meat, fish, vegetables, nuts and seeds in an effort to improve the muscle/nerve pain in my arms. I'm noticing less aching in the mornings, but a more noticeable benefit has been soaring energy levels. I've gone from needing to lay down in the afternoon and being pretty irritable and having a 'meh' outlook on everything, to feeling awake until bedtime, with a more relaxed and positive attitude. I'm not saying a depressed person can expect a complete turnaround, but to ignore the impact of diet on your health would be crazy.

It's worth noting that I've been successfully dealing with an overactive stress response as well, so my hormone levels are probably more balanced than they've been at any point in the last decade. The book Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers is a really detailed look at what stress can do to your body, and there's a chapter on depression as well. It can pretty much destroy you from the inside out, so it's worth reading the book if you find yourself slagging off your computer, worrying about the future, getting irritated in supermarket queues etc.

Yes, I've read about this, diet can help, there are ways of getting out of depression (if it's not too severe) without drugs, and theraphy, whatsoever. 2 things: time, and severity. I don't sleep basically 3-4 days out of the 7 of the week, because I cannot shut out my mind, It's full with regrets, thoughts, and when even not, I still just cannot sleep. I can't control that anymore, and having a dayjob, responsibilities, - for a regular person it's ok, for me in this state it's too much - going to work without any sleep for days, sleeping during the breaks, in the toilet for 10 minutes - leaving the other collegaues guess what the hell could you be doing.....being ignored by the collegaues, because you are totally negative, it radiates from you, from your very being, making you feel alone even worse, even though you are sorrounded by people, going home to your appartment, not being able to talk to anyone, tryig to chat up your parents on the phone, but all they ask is: how are you? Fine - ok, bye.... Heck even the god damned suicide hotline in this damned country is out of business because there is no money for it.....great. The hungarian society makes it even worse, an average person has no idea what it means, feels like, they can't, don't want to understand, since it's hard to get a job, and to make a living, you have to be even more agressive, and assertive, and if they see the slightest imbalance in you (believe me, they can smell it somehow) - well bye-bye no job. There are no support groups available,- not even in the capital city where I live -  even though there are tons of people who would need it, the health care system is overloaded, the doctors go abroad, because of the low salary - there are just not enough of them, the system is on the brink of collapse....so.
People are just too god damn ignorant, I swear, I find more support on these forums, then in the real-life people. On Tuesday I wrote a long text, to an acquantince of mine, a girl who I've dated for 10 months, - in the text I was hinting that I might end it all.... all she wrote back is: "ok, and?" See?
In this country if you are weak, and if people see it, and they always do - they WILL bring you down. Just a matter of time - it's a damn jungle war out here, and I'm on the losing end - I can't fight like this. Not yet.

Reply #192 - 2011 November 03, 8:46 am
Sebastian Member
Registered: 2008-09-09 Posts: 582

Raschaverak wrote:

Sad... I was always asking myself: why me?

Why not?

Oh, well...when all of this is over, and I will finally be healed.... be the way I'm supposed to be..I will write a damn book about my life. It will be worth reading smile

I hope I can read it someday.

Even if it isn't a book, It will be good to read you here once you find your balance.

がんばって!

elhnad Member
Registered: 2007-09-24 Posts: 46

@Javizy

I already tried the nutrition route, thanks for the contribution, gotta keep tryin. I second the statement of stress wreaking havoc in the body. Thanks for reminding me about the Zebra and Ulcers book. I'm sure the basis of his work comes from the grandfather of Stress, Hans Selye, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hans_Selye.
Stress comes from many factors including nutrition and sleep, not just the typical "I'm so stressed out" form.  Left uncorrected or unaddressed, the body has mechanisms and chemical secretions to try  to put the body back in homeostasis, but at a certain point, the wave of chemical secretions causes chronic inflammation which can manifest in a variety of afflictions

maybe it won't be to some, but for me one of the most liberating things I ever did was to study and read a lot on nutrition to discover the remarkable healing factor of the body if given the right foods and rest.  Knowing what real food is, deconstructing health myths, eating butter and eggs to my hearts content put the power back in my control.  I'm poor as hell but am happy being able to cook and eat real food everyday.

@Raschaverak
you seem like you have a lot of stress. I wish you the best in coping with it.

not suggesting anything but i got really stressed at my job 3 years ago and could only think bad things all day because of it. i figured i wouldn't learn to cope with it so i went on an extreme and quit that high paying job to become dirt poor because i enjoyed reading/researching, free time, and cheap cooking.

Raschaverak Member
From: Hungary Registered: 2008-12-30 Posts: 362

elhnad wrote:

@Raschaverak
you seem like you have a lot of stress. I wish you the best in coping with it.

not suggesting anything but i got really stressed at my job 3 years ago and could only think bad things all day because of it. i figured i wouldn't learn to cope with it so i went on an extreme and quit that high paying job to become dirt poor because i enjoyed reading/researching, free time, and cheap cooking.

Thank you but no....I was at the psychiatria today...they advised to go to the clinic immediately, for theraphy and observation. So I will be out of reach for a week or even more.... starting tomorrow. Haha, nice one. Hopefull I will be healed someday, and I can start living my life normally.

Reply #195 - 2011 November 03, 2:55 pm
Harpagornes Member
From: Aotearoa Registered: 2011-07-08 Posts: 119 Website

Hope the clinic works out well. I look forward to reading your report when you are next on-line.

Good luck.

Reply #196 - 2011 November 03, 4:14 pm
Nagareboshi Member
From: Austria Registered: 2010-10-11 Posts: 569 Website

Get well soon!

Reply #197 - 2011 November 03, 4:23 pm
Javizy Member
From: England Registered: 2007-02-16 Posts: 770

elhnad wrote:

maybe it won't be to some, but for me one of the most liberating things I ever did was to study and read a lot on nutrition to discover the remarkable healing factor of the body if given the right foods and rest.  Knowing what real food is, deconstructing health myths, eating butter and eggs to my hearts content put the power back in my control.  I'm poor as hell but am happy being able to cook and eat real food everyday.

Glad to hear you've had some success from the nutritional approach. I've read a few books on the topic so far, and they tend to be quite interesting. Myths surrounding the healthiness of the likes of skimmed milk, "low-fat" trash, and especially high fructose corn syrup are outrageous. It really shows you what big money marketing can achieve. They've got misinformed calorie-counting dieters eating cheaply produced, crap-tasting versions of the foods they want to eat, even though it makes it harder for them to lose weight. Do you have any books that you would particularly recommend?

Reply #198 - 2011 December 11, 8:39 pm
shish New member
From: United States Registered: 2011-11-16 Posts: 2

Introversion will give you the focus to become an expert, where your authority on a subject will give you the opportunity to lead, or at least guide.

Tzadeck Member
From: Kinki Registered: 2009-02-21 Posts: 2484

I found a somewhat long article by Marcia Angell that sort of summarizes three books that criticize the way drugs are used to treat mental disorders, as well as some other criticisms of the pharmaceutical industry.  Thought it was relevant to some of the discussion from this thread.

Part 1:
http://www.nybooks.com/articles/archive … tion=false
Part 2:
http://www.nybooks.com/articles/archive … tion=false

I've kind of defended the use of drugs to treat mental disorders here before, but I was really mostly defending against rather shallow criticisms of the pharmaceutical industry.  I don't really know enough about the topic to make a particularly informed opinion.  But, I think the article makes some good arguments.

Reply #200 - 2011 December 28, 6:49 am
nadiatims Member
Registered: 2008-01-10 Posts: 1676

life's what you make it

No matter how unfortunate you think your life is, I assure you there's plenty of people way worse off than you and they are happy. Don't compare yourself to other people, they have lived a completely different life to you. I assure you that there is something about that girl that would have driven you insane if you spent enough time with her.