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Reply #26 - 2010 March 10, 7:01 pm
kazelee Rater Mode
From: ohlrite Registered: 2008-06-18 Posts: 2132 Website

Random tangent: gyuujuice!? Sounds gross.

Reply #27 - 2010 March 10, 7:04 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

kazelee wrote:

Random tangent: gyuujuice!? Sounds gross.

I think it's some kind of milk fetish thing. I figured it was better to pretend not to notice, else I would've referred to them as 'gyuu' or 'g-juice' or something.

Also, what really sounds gross is 'munging' (see Nukemarine's thread). ;p

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Reply #28 - 2010 March 10, 7:32 pm
TheVinster Member
From: Illinois Registered: 2009-07-15 Posts: 985

Girlfriend! Girlfriend! Girlfriend!

Honestly, I would take the suggestion of many here and join a club. How old are you anyway? I, too, have a hard time being social, and it shows because I'm almost 21 and have no girlfriend! But hey, yeah if I were in your situation I would immediately join a club. Get some valuable social time, meet new people, and learn a skill while you're at it. I'm so jealous of you having a visa until 2012! I'd be taking advantage of that thing like no tomorrow.

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Reply #29 - 2010 March 10, 8:00 pm
SammyB Member
From: Sydney, Australia Registered: 2008-05-28 Posts: 337

mr_hans_moleman wrote:

I have a simple tip, maybe you are doing it already. Do you read out loud? If you don't, then you should start right away. No matter how much you read, if you don't read out loud then it's not going to matter.

I'm interested in this. Can you, or anyone else who knows stuff (looking at you nest0r) explain why this is helpful?

What about if you are reading things out with bad pronounciation and flow? Is it still beneficial?

What types of things should be read out loud..?

Reply #30 - 2010 March 10, 8:26 pm
nest0r Member
Registered: 2007-10-19 Posts: 5236 Website

SammyB wrote:

mr_hans_moleman wrote:

I have a simple tip, maybe you are doing it already. Do you read out loud? If you don't, then you should start right away. No matter how much you read, if you don't read out loud then it's not going to matter.

I'm interested in this. Can you, or anyone else who knows stuff (looking at you nest0r) explain why this is helpful?

What about if you are reading things out with bad pronounciation and flow? Is it still beneficial?

What types of things should be read out loud..?

People usually suggest 'shadowing' longer passages to develop a sense of flow, using audio+text. My recommendation for SRSing recognition cards has always been read (without audio) while subvocalizing, trying to develop your mental articulatory rehearsal abilities and suchlike in the working memory without reliance on external feedback, and then flipping the card and listening to the audio, activating those semantic and phonetic links in the brain and using/building those associations (that's why the studies use 'reading aloud' and 'naming' as the basis when analyzing areas of activation and interactions of routes to determine the most comprehensive reading models), correcting any subvocal errors and also repeating aloud to develop speaking.

I wouldn't do this as much for non-SRS reading of longer passages because the intensive stuff's already taken care of, but I suppose the shadowing thing would still be good for working on longer and longer areas of 'flow' and parsing, since you can control how long the passages you read/get feedback on are, on the fly. I'd still place most of the emphasis on subvocalization though, with audio as the 'checking tool', if not using the SRS, because I only use it in the SRS for that and for listening/speaking practice. But I think it's most important to develop that 'inner articulator' without reliance on audio you hear/speak yourself in longer and longer bouts of reading.

As suggested in a couple other threads, I have a similar view with listening practice, but in that case my focus is on developing the ability to listen-->subvocalize while continuing to listen (interference/suppression of the phonological loop) in order to develop chunking skills and the establishment of retrieval structures to increase capacity of articulatory rehearsal (because, like i+x, that stuff that discusses quantifiable limits [7 items or something] of working memory isn't proven/legit, per se). That works with the audio as focus because it's listening practice and you won't have the text before you for backlooping of static representations.

Although if you introduce interference by trying to read + subvocalize while listening to something different, I think that's useful too, and sometimes in Anki if audio of a previous card is still playing as I flip+grade another card (recognition/reading text of new card while prev. audio is playing), I think of that as a kind of exercise (helps me feel less frustrated when audio doesn't immediately stop playing... ) Although I can't say I recall that happening recently, so perhaps I'll experiment with that separately now. Kind of an anti-shadowing process with exaggerated lack of synch with audio and text.

Edit: Here's more on listening I wrote before that has references for some of my layperson's appropriation of established jargon: http://forum.koohii.com/viewtopic.php?pid=69235#p69235

Keep in mind when I speak of subvocalization, I do refer to calling to mind the phonological components silently, but treat them with the models of using distinct routes separate from semantic access, as well as being more of a variation of 'motor' articulation. The ultimate goal remains a robust kind of 'learn the drill, master the drill, dissolve the drill' effect where much of the time, your inner 'voice' is minimal in terms of overt self-representation/phonological recoding.

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Reply #31 - 2010 March 10, 11:59 pm
BJohnsen Member
From: Hawaii Registered: 2009-09-09 Posts: 52

I found that rehearsing what I wanted to say in advance was really helpful. Obviously this isn't going to get you far in a lot of social situations, but it works for run of the mill, daily routine kinds of things - shopping, asking for information, short social interactions, etc. It made it possible for me to start speaking at all, and to have a chance of being understood. Also, the context I'd set up made it more likely that I'd understand what I was hearing, and the brevity of the transactions and the fact that I was talking to strangers helped keep my anxiety under control. My comfort level gradually advanced from simple sales transactions and comments on the weather, to an afternoon in Kanda looking for out-of-print books and chats with fellow bathers at the 温泉.

Reply #32 - 2010 March 11, 11:45 am
gyuujuice Member
From: USA Registered: 2008-09-24 Posts: 828

kazeleeとRuiner@
At first I thought you called my gross because of my speach disability. ;__: But then I read the entire post.

HAHAHA~ no no no. 牛 was my first Japanese word and it is a shortended version of a weird experience I had in a convent. (I was visiting.) All the drinks looked inedible, they were just colored water. Everyone called the juices/drinks by color and they teased me into believing that they called milk, "cow juice". (I was pretty young at the time.)

Yeah, it's kinda weird for a name. "Fetish"@ rofl
I guess I should be more carefull with my avatar names.

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Reply #33 - 2010 March 11, 2:55 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

gyuujuice wrote:

kazeleeとRuiner@
At first I thought you called my gross because of my speach disability. ;__: But then I read the entire post.

HAHAHA~ no no no. 牛 was my first Japanese word and it is a shortended version of a weird experience I had in a convent. (I was visiting.) All the drinks looked inedible, they were just colored water. Everyone called the juices/drinks by color and they teased me into believing that they called milk, "cow juice". (I was pretty young at the time.)

Yeah, it's kinda weird for a name. "Fetish"@ rofl
I guess I should be more carefull with my avatar names.

What do you think this is, an internet forum? As if we would be so cruel.

At any rate, I only mentioned milk fetish because I had the misfortune of watching the first episode of Seikon no Qwaser, thinking from a quick glance at the picture and synopsis that it was some stylish urban fantasy series. I really ought to have been clued in by the 'uncensored' and from now on, I shall attend more nimbly to genres, especially words such as 'ecchi'.

Reply #34 - 2010 March 11, 4:59 pm
Dankoochoo Member
Registered: 2010-02-12 Posts: 38 Website

I give trying to learn Keigo as a suggestion...

Reply #35 - 2010 March 11, 5:03 pm
nest0r Member
Registered: 2007-10-19 Posts: 5236 Website

Dankoochoo wrote:

I give trying to learn Keigo as a suggestion...

I agree, bodyguarding seems to be a popular job in the media. Especially well-spoken butler-bodyguards.

Reply #36 - 2010 March 11, 5:39 pm
Burritolingus Member
From: United States of America Inc. Registered: 2008-10-09 Posts: 216 Website

ruiner wrote:

gyuujuice wrote:

kazeleeとRuiner@
At first I thought you called my gross because of my speach disability. ;__: But then I read the entire post.

HAHAHA~ no no no. 牛 was my first Japanese word and it is a shortended version of a weird experience I had in a convent. (I was visiting.) All the drinks looked inedible, they were just colored water. Everyone called the juices/drinks by color and they teased me into believing that they called milk, "cow juice". (I was pretty young at the time.)

Yeah, it's kinda weird for a name. "Fetish"@ rofl
I guess I should be more carefull with my avatar names.

What do you think this is, an internet forum? As if we would be so cruel.

At any rate, I only mentioned milk fetish because I had the misfortune of watching the first episode of Seikon no Qwaser, thinking from a quick glance at the picture and synopsis that it was some stylish urban fantasy series. I really ought to have been clued in by the 'uncensored' and from now on, I shall attend more nimbly to genres, especially words such as 'ecchi'.

You may or may not want to avoid Visitor Q, then.

Reply #37 - 2010 March 11, 6:07 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

@Lingus

Actually, as a devout 三池 fan, I watched that ages ago, and was going to reference as the *good* kind of milk fetishism. Wait, that came out wrong. I meant at least watchable and interesting. My complaint really is with poorly and/or tackily executed S&M (and its deviant kin) in media. ;p Especially the sexist kind (which defeats the purpose of the exploration and subversion of power dynamics in the transgressive vein, which has a rich Enlightenment/revolutionary history).

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Reply #38 - 2010 March 11, 6:21 pm
Taurus Member
From: Kofu, Yamanashi Registered: 2008-06-19 Posts: 100 Website

In response to the original post, I can sort of empathise - I'm only on the verge of passing JLPT2, but my spoken Japanese is appaling (though my listening is pretty good). Like, the other day the French language teacher at my school, who converses with the other teachers really naturally in Japanese told me he's still studying for JLPT 4. I can barely get a sentence out because I spend all day speaking and correcting English.

Anyway, here are some of the things that I've been trying/intend to try/have heard are good:

Shadowing, as has been mentioned already.

Trying to find a helpful Skype conversation partner - have you checked out lang-8? Perhaps you could find someone on there who would be up for exchanging English/Japanese Skype calls.

Watching TV. I LOVE Japanese TV, for all the quiz shows and shows about eating. And there's a load of Japanese subtitles to help you.

Listening to things on repeat. At the moment I'm going through Ghibli's Omoide Poro Poro, just listening to it over and over on the way to work or while out running (I ripped the audio to mp3 and stuck it on my ipod). It's a pretty good choice for me because a lot of it is told from a kid's perspective so a lot of the language is very simple, but I went through the Japanese subs first (linked to from AJATT) and put anything I didn't understand into Anki and now I can understand even the complicated bits. I did the same with the Ten Nights of Dreams and In a Grove audiobooks, and next I intend to do Grave of the Fireflies. I figure that once I've assimilated enough Japanese in this sort of 'controlled environment' my brain will be able to make sense of real-life sounds too.

Reply #39 - 2010 March 11, 7:47 pm
ファブリス Administrator
From: Belgium Registered: 2006-06-14 Posts: 4021 Website

Anxiety pills don't work. If you have a broken leg you can take pain relief medication, but your leg isn't getting fixed.

Anxiety medication can help people who feel so bad that they don't leave their home anymore, telling them to go out or to do sports won't work. But when the anxiety is bearable, the medication is a crutch.

@koyota: you don't have to go to clubs or bars if that's not your sort of thing. You can simply join activities. Do you like the writing system? You could join a calligraphy class. I did it for a year and a half. There's not a whole lot of talking, but it can be calming too, as it requires concentration. If it's anything like my course in Brussels, it's popular with women wink  But what I found personally from experience is that you shouldn't join activites with the goal of making friends or chatting to girls.. the more you try the less you succeed. Be yourself.. join activites that really mean something to you. You'll be much more succesful that way. You've probably noticed how easier it is to talk with people when you talk about things you love, especially when public speaking. If you stick to some activities that you enjoy, life will eventualy throw some good surprises at you..

Oh and how could I forget this.. join a YOGA class. You get a regular activity to socialize and it also has a very positive effect on the mind.

Reply #40 - 2010 March 11, 7:55 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

Resisting... urge... to discuss psychology + drugs...

Reply #41 - 2010 March 11, 9:22 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

IceCream wrote:

it depends... it really depends on the person and their individual situation. In some cases, yeah, it's better to just try a bit harder. But in a LOT of cases, medication does work. One medication doesn't work for everyone as well. Sometimes you have to try a few to find one that works for you. It's not the same as taking pain medication to mend a broken leg, because the pathways, balance of chemicals in your brain, etc. isn't that simple.
What taking medication can do is help jumpstart your brain into making the right chemicals to begin with, and give you the chance to work on making the right actions and changes to your life to keep your brain working properly. Again, it totally depends on your situation as to whether that's necessary. In the worst cases, people might need to take it for a long time, and maybe then it acts as a band aid, but even then, it can be life changing fo those people.
But, so many people just write it off out of hand, and i think these constant pressures to not take any kind of medication can be really damaging when people can be really helped by it, and when it can change people's life. You wouldn't say that to someone suffering from any other medical problem... even though the power of thought can cure cancer. I just think it's better that someone tries it and sees how it works for them...

I think it's very rare that medication as an external tool to treat mental issues is 'required'. Between actual research and the stuff that gets unveiled periodically about drug effects, such as what Fabrice posted, or problems with diagnoses (eg http://www.mindhacks.com/blog/2010/01/b … noses.html), re: colour-coding brain scans as one wishes to 'doctor' and spin results...

Anxiety and depression as mental/emotional descriptors are not cancer. More like H1N1 at worst, as a biological metaphor at least. ;p (Edit: i.e., if circumstances align, it can kill, esp. the young. Pretty good metaphorical correlation if I do say so myself.) There's stuff that actually physically damages the brain and thus the mind that would better reserved for the cancer card.

Likewise, the pharmaceutical industry is enormous money-wise (see also: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/co … 49_pf.html), and the pressure, in my experience, is in the opposite direction: "Your kid is excitable? Ritalin! Feeling the blues? Prozac! Feeling anxious? Xanax! Take one every day, forever, and your life is fixed, your nature altered." Etc. So in general, my advice is always 'look at every other (non wishy-washy) option first'.

I agree, otherwise: It can be very useful--just as useful as any number of other initial perspectival changes people make, especially as a 'jumpstart' mechanism in conjunction with life changes. But it, like anything else, is easily abused...

Anyway, currently I'm off on a crusade against the disease model of addiction, alongside 12-step programs. Be back in infinity.

Edit: Here's some tangents and reading material to keep you busy. ;p http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Szasz#Criticism

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Reply #42 - 2010 March 11, 10:22 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

@IceCream - Agreed, it's always something to consider, but I do think it requires deep consideration--I don't know about the UK, but in some places, it's the first panacea people reach for--pop a pill and your problems are over. Personally I'd recommend it 9 times out of 10, for the short-term as part of a more CBT-style* long-term program, over anything remotely religious or spiritual. But I'm a heathen and in general I wouldn't recommend anything, because to me everyone's crazy. sad

Speaking of suicide, this is interesting: http://ideas.repec.org/a/eee/japwor/v21 … 0-150.html - How is suicide different in Japan?

In full: http://www.e.u-tokyo.ac.jp/cirje/resear … 8cf557.pdf

*Dear fetishists, when I say CBT I mean Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, not **** & *** *******. Though I suppose they needn't be mutually exclusive.

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Reply #43 - 2010 March 11, 11:27 pm
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

IceCream wrote:

yeah, this study is really interesting, thanks!!

lol, milk fetish CBT fetish?!? i totally don't want to know!!!!!

The mind is very complicated. ;(

Reply #44 - 2010 March 12, 12:04 am
ruiner Member
Registered: 2009-08-20 Posts: 751

nest0r wrote:

Dankoochoo wrote:

I give trying to learn Keigo as a suggestion...

I agree, bodyguarding seems to be a popular job in the media. Especially well-spoken butler-bodyguards.

What, no love for my little joke here? C'mon people, this is some top quality punning!! Be impressed at my knowledge of basic vocabulary and anime trope reference.

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Reply #45 - 2010 March 12, 12:32 am
gyuujuice Member
From: USA Registered: 2008-09-24 Posts: 828

(Side conversation)
^__^ Ruiner, I had to laugh at your post!
It's funny how out of line all our posts on this forum seem to get.
(Side conversation over)

Didn't Mixi change it's program now so foreign people can now join? I think I read this somewhere. I hear it's a good way to practice.

Reply #46 - 2010 March 12, 1:59 am
MeNoSavvy Member
Registered: 2008-05-24 Posts: 131

I just want to say to Koyota, quit being so hard on yourself ! You passed JLPT1, you should try and feel good about that rather than immediately getting anxious about the next step ! What percentage of people who start learning japanese actually make it to the level you are now ! Admittedly maybe your speech isn't as fluid as you would like, and there are other things you need to improve on, but you've obviously got a decent understanding of the language, with just a few areas that need fine tuning.

My advice is
1. Work on tackling your social anxiety. I highly recommend the books by David Burns, such as "Feeling Good", and when "Panic Attacks". 
2. You need to get out there and interact with people, don't worry if you make mistakes, or stuff up, it is part of the learning process. Again it comes back to not being too hard on yourself, and looking at life as a learning experience.
3. If you are able to work part-time see if you can get a job. Obviously you don't want to take on some crap job, but maybe you can find something that doesn't pay well, but will at least give you the chance to use Japanese. Alternatively there may be some volunteer work you can do. In any event if something doesn't work, don't let it get you down, just view it as an experiment that didn't work, and now it is time to try the next experiment.

Other people have also given you excellent suggestions, good luck.

Reply #47 - 2010 March 13, 10:25 am
kame3 Member
From: Netherlands Registered: 2009-09-01 Posts: 133

Taurus wrote:

In response to the original post, I can sort of empathise - I'm only on the verge of passing JLPT2, but my spoken Japanese is appaling (though my listening is pretty good). Like, the other day the French language teacher at my school, who converses with the other teachers really naturally in Japanese told me he's still studying for JLPT 4. I can barely get a sentence out because I spend all day speaking and correcting English.

Perhaps, native English speakers (I'm guessing you are since you teach it) have more problems with spoken Japanese, since more often than not it is their first second language. For most non-native English, they already passed the hurdle of speaking a second language with English, so perhaps they have less problems.
Furthermore, the reason he's studying for JLPT4 could well be that his Kanji knowledge is bad. I know enough people who can speak Japanese very good (imho), but just do not have any (or scarce) Kanji knowledge. But perhaps that is not the case here.

Reply #48 - 2010 March 15, 3:26 am
MeNoSavvy Member
Registered: 2008-05-24 Posts: 131

kame3 wrote:

Taurus wrote:

In response to the original post, I can sort of empathise - I'm only on the verge of passing JLPT2, but my spoken Japanese is appaling (though my listening is pretty good). Like, the other day the French language teacher at my school, who converses with the other teachers really naturally in Japanese told me he's still studying for JLPT 4. I can barely get a sentence out because I spend all day speaking and correcting English.

Perhaps, native English speakers (I'm guessing you are since you teach it) have more problems with spoken Japanese, since more often than not it is their first second language. For most non-native English, they already passed the hurdle of speaking a second language with English, so perhaps they have less problems.
Furthermore, the reason he's studying for JLPT4 could well be that his Kanji knowledge is bad. I know enough people who can speak Japanese very good (imho), but just do not have any (or scarce) Kanji knowledge. But perhaps that is not the case here.

Yes I find this scenario very interesting. While in Japan I met a lot of people from various places such as Brazil, Peru, India, Nepal etc who could speak Japanese pretty damn well. But they were still learning kanji or in some cases could hardly even read kana. Talking with them they told me the were able to get fluent pretty quickly, in some cases only a year or so, but it took them a lot longer to learn kanji. I was kind of curious how they did it, but they didn't seem to have any special method, other than listening, speaking, jotting down notes and looking stuff up in the dictionary. Obviously spoken japanese is something that in some cases people can pick up pretty easily without much actual formal study.

However I wasn't able to achieve the same thing ! Despite living in Japan for 2 years I can't speak the language worth a damn !

Mormon missionaries also seem to manage to master some reasonable spoken fluency in only a year. They told me that they don't really study kanji at all. I asked them what their secrets were, but they told me the intensive mormon language school which they attend before heading off overseas doesn't really "teach" stuff. It is more like, you are going to japan in a month, memorize this before tomorrow. After arriving in Japan they are paired up with a more experienced guy who helps the newbie learn the ropes.