Right, any language should not be memorized... At least not short-term. It should be natural repetition, as the way we learned 'most' of our grammar growing up. I know a lot of people will admit, who the hell knows what a conjunction is? I really paid no attention to what a 'noun, pronoun' was up until a few years ago. However I knew how to use them perfectly, and so on.
Back in gradeschool, about 6th grade and below when grammar was crucial. I remember specifically not following the directions for the most part, I always see it as a waste of time. (I am wrong in most cases, but I am too stubborn.) Instead of following the directions in my grammar book, I would always just read the example sentences, and sort of "feel" my way into the right sentence. Mostly I would get it right, but sometimes it would take me 12 times before I realized what I did wrong. Thats the key though, failing some of it is better than remembering a boring grammar rule once and forgetting it. When you use your honed ability to "feel" things such as music and even a language, you can and will learn more efficiently/naturally.
One more interesting point in learning by doing, instead of by memorizing. Up until about last year, I didn't know the terms for writing a proper paper, like the 1-3-1 format. Now I just took the time to learn about it, guess what. I was already doing it way before I actually paid attention to how it was done, and I had practiced through writing on forums just like this one for years.
What I am trying to convey here is, no one memorizes grammar... At least that is not the way one actually "learns" to put it into live action. Not even natives, like I said, ask any English speaker out of gradeschool what some of the basic grammar terms mean and do, they mostly cannot even tell you. Albeit, they can still speak perfectly fine.
For the record, English is my top class and mostly always has been. Also I am not bragging by any means, I feel the need to express some of my experiences in order for readers to understand what I mean. 
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