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well, if you wanna think about it like that, he also "missed the opportunity" to break the "arbitrary rule" not to steal whatever was in the room at the time.
I can think of a lot better ways to test "thinking outside the box" or whatever company-esque bs that's supposed to be.
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Perfect. I just found out that the girl I was after just got a new boyfriend, a lawyer. Haha, good for them.
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just because she got a new boyfriend doesn't mean you have to stop pursuing her.
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then again, there is this:
http://www.pnas.org/content/early/2012/0...9.abstract
Quote:Higher social class predicts increased unethical behaviour.
Seven studies using experimental and naturalistic methods reveal that upper-class individuals behave more unethically than lower-class individuals. In studies 1 and 2, upper-class individuals were more likely to break the law while driving, relative to lower-class individuals. In follow-up laboratory studies, upper-class individuals were more likely to exhibit unethical decision-making tendencies (study 3), take valued goods from others (study 4), lie in a negotiation (study 5), cheat to increase their chances of winning a prize (study 6), and endorse unethical behavior at work (study 7) than were lower-class individuals. Mediator and moderator data demonstrated that upper-class individuals’ unethical tendencies are accounted for, in part, by their more favorable attitudes toward greed.
Proven, hahah.
So there you go Rascharevak, you
should be looking to become as low and scummy as possible, then you'll fit right in with the rest of the greedy lot.
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Well, if i was running a business, i would prefer to have individuals who can think for themselves, of course, but still have a solid grasp of basic ethics. Logic being, they'd be less likely to ***** me over and run off with whatever they could take. Plus, if the only way to beat my competitors is by being unethical, tbh, i'm probably in the wrong sector entirely and should just get a better business idea to begin with.
I certainly wouldn't be holding it against anyone if they didn't think about cheating on a test. There's sooooo many better ways to test whether you can think for yourself than that.
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... o.O, well that's surely an interesting response to a girl just getting herself a boyfriend, right there.
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Raschaverak, did you ever actually make any moves? ask her out?
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Nice Guys™ have always fascinated me, but that response really takes it up a notch.
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A big part of learning to pursue women is learning to not get that upset when it doesn't work out. You will meet tons of women in your life that are single and beautiful and have good personalities, and there will be a million reasons why it won't work out even if you two get along and they like you. And then there are all those times where they won't really like you. It happens to everyone. (Unfortunately, being a guy, you're often too stupid to realize when you actually don't like them either. Nevertheless, you beat yourself up over it. Guys are bad at that. Also, guys don't like to admit that they beat themselves up over things, so don't be fooled by the impression that other guys give off.)
A big part of my journey in getting better at finding beautiful and interesting women has not been becoming more charismatic, outgoing, or interesting. Rather, it's been accepting that a high failure rate is just part of the game.
(Reminds me of a line in the movie Before Sunset. The two lovers in the movie met once and had a romantic day and night together, but they didn't exchange phone numbers or addresses because they didn't want their feelings to slowly and sadly fade away. When they meet by chance eight years later, they realize it was a mistake because they've spent so much time thinking about each other. She explains why they didn't exchange numbers, "I guess when you are young, you believe that you will meet many people with whom you'll connect with, but later in life you realize it only happens a few times." It's true, you won't meet that many people in life that you really connect with.)
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Did Raschaverak strategically ignore my question...?
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Seems like I have a bad habit of not being able to get over things. How do you do that? Yes I can forget, but sometimes it reoccurs, just for a second / minute, and then fades away.
Damn, I'm sorting my files and I came over an email (saved in doc format) I sent to that.....person. Damn....If only I could go back one year before....if only......just one year.....
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How about not instantly deciding to unperson and label people as bitches just because they did not perform as you wanted them to? You'd be surprised how much that helps with girls*.
Maybe a livejournal would better serve for this particular purpose?
*if you're into the kind of girls that would only date someone for their proffession then your taste in women might need some rethinking. If you're just assuming that that person went out with that person for his profession then you might want to rethink your view on women. We have magical instincts that can feel that and get instantly turned off by it you know.
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Raschaverak, do you consider yourself unlucky?
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Raschaverak... sorry, but you're coming off as completely crazy right now.
For one thing, for the whole of the 2(?) years you've been saying "these last few months have been the worst of my life", so i don't think it has much to do with this girl. Or having a job. Or not having a job. Or missing opportunities. Or whatever.
Go and take a walk outside, then come back and reread the kinds of things you've been writing, as if you were someone else reading them. What would you say to someone else with the same problems as you? What advice would you give them? Hopefully you'll get another perspective...? Because it's your perspective on everything in life that's causing you problems, not external circumstances.
Obviously the medication isn't working, so you need to either try another type, or, since i think you're not going to do that, work very hard to stop thinking about everything in such a negative manner. And no, you don't need money or a psychiatrist to be able to do that. Just change your perspective on things. That's all that's necessary.
When you notice that you're having a negative thought, stop, and think really hard about whether that thing is actually negative, or whether you're just thinking about it badly. Because pretty much everything you're getting upset about is coming from your own head, and your own perspective on things.
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@tzadeck: that really is a beautiful speech... i hadn't read it before, so, thankyou!!!
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Man, medication doesn't solve stuff like this.
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If it makes you feel any better I'm 28 and am on track to finish my bachelors degree when I am 29.... I totally agree that the job market is horrible. It looks like I'm going in the military as soon as I graduate.
When do I start? 
