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To be fair, the premise of this thread wasn't "Is Japan a good place to live?" but "In what ways has Japan disappointed you?" While these two may interact with each other, they are actually separate issues.
Activeaero, you brought up several good points, but I think the OP was more concerned about being disenchanted with day-to-day life in Japan than comparing living conditions there with those in other countries. In that vein, being disappointed that Japanese adults can be so immature as to run around acting like 11-year-olds at a theme park isn't such a radical complaint, even if the truth is that theme parks like Disneyland seem to attract the less mature adult population and magnify a problem that is actually at best insignificant.
The point of this thread is for people to share stories about how Japan wasn't everything they hoped it could be in some ways. I don't think it's fair to call this "crying" about first-world problems. I think knowing that, under the law, foreigners have zero rights in Japan is pretty DANG important, and something that I might never have learned if not for people sharing their stories here, so don't be so quick to condemn, ok? ;7
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I have lived in the US for many years and I would leave tomorrow if I could. But my wife and kids are American and that would mean leaving them behind, which I won't do. So I just make the best of it.
There are many good things about the US and Americans in general, but then again you can say that about EVERY culture and people, so nothing special here.
But what has ground on me over the years is the extreme stupidity of Americans. And that is reflected no better than on American TV, which is god awful. With the exception of a few good dramas and documentaries, TV here is at the level of an 11 year old, and the Americans love it.
Take a trip to Disney Land, where you'll find perfectly sane (but stupid) adult women and men wearing their Mickey Mouse ears and running around acting like, well....11 year olds.
Watch a reality show where after every scene the participants act as if they have just shat their brains out over the most asinine shit in the history of mankind.
Try going to Best Buy where all you want to do is shop for a TV. The stores always crowded and the staff don't have a clue. The stuff is so expensive, and when you go to buy it they won't shut up about insurance plans and getting $100 Monster cables to go along with it. Can't I just buy my TV at a decent price and go home?
The US is also very very boring. There really isn't a whole lot to do here beside going out to eat and drink. As far as sightseeing....the crowds, the prices, and the fat people...no thanks.
I could go on and on...my advice; stay away. A short visit or business trip? Ok I guess. But to live here. Fail.
America Sucks
(I concur JP TV is horrendous....its why everyone watches American TV)
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Actually, those all sound like pretty valid complaints to me, vix. American TV does kinda suck except for a few shows/channels. If you don't have cable or satellite, you really only have three or four shows to watch on a regular basis that aren't terrible. (Sounds like that's still be more than Japanese TV though).
Also, for the most part living in America IS pretty boring. Most of my entertainment comes from the internet because everything else takes money. Unless you live in a bigger city with parks and museums and stuff, in which case, yeah, you don't really have as much of an excuse; but I don't. I live in a small college town where I don't have a lot of friends and there aren't many places to go to MEET friends if I was so inclined (which I'm not, so I'm not really complaining, but for some people this might be a big deal).
While immature people running around Disneyland might be humorous to me at first, it would probably get on my nerves after a while, especially if they were really overt about it (loud, obnoxious, rowdy, getting in my way) to the point where it ruined my experience and made me not want to go back. Thankfully my trip to Disney World when I was younger was nothing like this.
It is silly to judge a WHOLE country based on just these criteria, but if you left your home country, let's say, Japan, to get away from this kind of behavior, then I can see how it might be a huge letdown. This is more of a "the more you know.." type list.
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The point is that most everyone that grew up in one country for most of their life; will be way, WAY more forgiving in the BS that happens in their home country vs a foreign one. The grew up and came to accept that BS as a fact of life, "Its home!" They may grumble about it but its still their home. Put them in another country with small problems and most people will be less forgiving of the bad points and over time will simply drum up "home" as such a better place after all.
If you could create a country where no one had to work, everything was done by robots/AI, and people could get whatever they want for free. People would probably bitch about the fact that "at least back home when you did something there was a sense of ACCOMPLISHMENT!" "at least back home people that served your food had emotions and you knew they were real people" "at least back home I could work and not be bored all day."..... "***** Shangri-la is shit! I'd go home if it wasn't for my wife and kids! Who wants to live in a socialist country anyway?!"
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I think there might be something in the fact that people tend to come to Japan at a time in their life, when the easy life that is university comes to an end, and they have to deal with a whole bunch of real world realities possibly for the first time. Such people would likely be just as depressed if they had stayed working some boring job in their home countries, basically the "grass is always greener on the other side complex". Not to say that there's nothing wrong with Japan though.
The legal system/government is I'm sure just as shit as it is most places.
I do agree about TV though. 英語圏 TV is generally a lot better in my opinion.
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I hardly watch western TV at all (TV is just garbage to keep people in a sedate state for hours a day, I'm horrified that people watch 4 hours a day on average in this country). At least watching Japanese TV provides some education for me and has anime.
Regarding naturalised Japanese citizens, are they hauled down to the police station all the time for not carrying their gaijin card as a perceived alien? :/
If you break your leg on the way to the airport on the day your visa expires and get sent to hospital, do you end up imprisoned, beaten, deported for 5 years/murdered in custody for overstaying?
I feel paranoid now having read debito for the first time..
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I agree English TV is mostly garbage too. But I think Japanese TV is a higher grade of garbage, except the occasional decent anime.
I've sometimes been asked to show my gaitou when checking into hotels. I've often contemplated what would happen if I just claimed to be Japanese in such a situation...(not that I actually care)
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Decent anime.... man, it's been so long. Maybe I've grown old, or maybe everything is just crap nowadays. Hm, aside from that berserk animation on the way. The manga pace ruins that serie too though.
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The free channels are pretty much the worst, hardly anything but (occasionally entertaining) chat shows, CMs and product placement. It did recommend a good cheesecake to me though.
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I know you're right, but it has motivated me to keep my passport on my person. I still am curious to know how naturalised citizens are treated with respect to being asked for foreigner registration cards though.
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But for those of us without drivers licenses, what happens if you claim to be japanese?
I assume if you look Japanese, nothing. But if you're foreign looking and aren't able to produce id, what happens?
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murder is murder...what difference does it make if it's racially motivated or not?
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`Take a trip to Disney Land, where you'll find perfectly sane (but stupid) adult women and men wearing their Mickey Mouse ears and running around acting like, well....11 year olds`
Apart from the NZ blogger Gala darling, I am not aware of a single Western women who wants to regress back to her childhood and go to Disney.
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Lets not forget that Tokyo Disneyland is also a place you take your g/f when you are really strong. Its kind of a tradition that has formed in Japan.