Recently ive been going on tokyo craigslist, but that place seems to be a dud I have only gotten 1 reply in the many emails I sent out and that was just them saying that they werent interested. Does anyone know of any other good sites? I went on japan-guide.com on their dating one, and signed up for a (free) account but I literally could not find a single woman on that site. All the reccomened users were men(i am not joking). I would really like to find a japanese woman so I can marry them later on. I was in Japan for a month and a half and couldnt even find a women there, so maybe I can have better chances on the internet.

Maybe you should try your luck with locals.

I used to live in japan. But not anymore, so I cannot do that. And even then I had no luck.

was your japanese good?

I think the girls are shy anyway (about their english and more)

You were there for a month and a half. You were hardly there long enough to find someone to have a little fling with let alone someone to marry.

I don't know the answer to your question, but why are you so focused on marrying a Japanese girl? What's wrong with finding someone locally regardless of ethnicity?

Yes my japanese was good, as I had some long conversations(in japanese) with some.

And the reason I want to marry a japanese girl is because they are so beautiful and elegant women and I hope to live in Japan someday and you cant do that with an american girl.

If i were a japanese girl... i'm not sure i'd marry someone who was looking for japanese girls exclusively. It may be a positive sort of racism, but it's still racism. It's probably going to be considered especially weird if you do it outside of japan.

Zon70 Wrote:because they are so beautiful and elegant

Mate, before you approach any person of the opposite sex, you need to fix that issue first. For a start, I prescribe you listening to this song.

Any Japanese girl who is looking on the internet for a foreign man to marry her and take her out of Japan is probably just as much only interested in the "exotic other".

They will also probably not be the exotic/elegant obedient China doll that some dream of. The very reason they want out of Japan is because they do not like being dominated (by Japanese men they have relationships with or by work & society) and don't want to be held by the standards of beauty (fashion, makeup, etc) expected in Japan (which admittedly is much higher than the west).

As for advice on locations, mixi is the only realistic place to look. Deai-kei sites exist but the vast majority are scam sites or legit sites mostly populated by 3rd party scammers.

Plentyoffish has single girls from all over the world (Japan included) and it's free:
http://www.pof.com

Not sure how good this one is, but I've seen it mentioned/used on the gaijinpot forums:
http://www.japancupid.com

Also Worldfriends (the dating site associated with Japan-guide) has tons of women - think you must have been using it wrong!

EDIT: I should note, I met my finance on POF - but she's not Japanese and we were both living in London at the time. Not entirely sure how trying to date someone living in a different country would work; good luck

Japanese women aren't special -_-

Jarvik7 Wrote:As for advice on locations, mixi is the only realistic place to look. Deai-kei sites exist but the vast majority are scam sites or legit sites mostly populated by 3rd party scammers.

Mixi COULD be a good place and I often here it mentioned as a good source for meeting girls. However, I see tons of girls with profiles saying they don't want to do 出会い厨・出会い・等々. The thing that has always been a question in my head has been do they literally mean "I don't meet people from the net, in person." or "Don't bother me if you want one night flings." Not only that, but Mixi has filters put in place which will delete/prevent you from actually trying to contact people in real life. Its kind of sad really because a country like Japan, which has a populace that wants to find someone to marry, has such shitty dating services. Japan really needs an OkCupid.

Asriel Wrote:I don't know the answer to your question, but why are you so focused on marrying a Japanese girl? What's wrong with finding someone locally regardless of ethnicity?

While I will agree that I think some of OP's reasons for wanting a Japanese girl are kind of misguided (ie: spouse visa). It really gets under my skin when people pull out this shit on "you shouldn't decide based on race" or more generally "you're being shallow." For almost half my life now I have been more attracted to asian women than white women, I can't really say why, its just how it is. Yet, I always hear constant BS from people, particularly women, berating me for the fact that I am "being preferential and shouldn't be focused on a girl's looks." Which is the biggest load of crap ever because by extension you should also be telling said people "You shouldn't also discount the same sex either! Don't be sexist! There could be a cute girl/boy out there that is your match as well!" Which I never hear. That is all.

They just don't want guys randomly hitting on them and trying to hook up right away. That doesn't mean they do not want to meet people. I've met a few through mixi. Could have met more but I lost interest during the mailing phase and then met gf offline.

Mixi has nothing to prevent you from contacting people in real life. The only kind of blocking is to prevent adults from finding minors (assuming everyone has correctly input their age). Hiding real names & pics is something people do on their own.

I've never tried any of the more direct dating sites like japancupid or whatever since they kind of creep me out and I'm opposed to paying for that kind of service (maybe if there was an ad supported one?).

I'll grab the popcorn.

[Zgarbas]

Mail-order?

I've read that the development of robots has progressed tons in the last few years...

I still find that they chafe

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vix86 Wrote:...It really gets under my skin when people pull out this shit on "you shouldn't decide based on race" or more generally "you're being shallow." For almost half my life now I have been more attracted to asian women than white women, I can't really say why, its just how it is....

Fair point, I can understand being attracted to certain people for certain reasons. I just looked at his situation and thought it might not be in his best interest to put so much effort into looking specifically for a Japanese girl. He's not in Japan right now, and he wants to find a Japanese girl to marry. He's stayed there for 6 weeks, and he says he wants to live in Japan. Finding a girl to marry and moving to a country are two decisions with long-lasting effects, and I think it'd be more practical to separate the concerns.

The way I see it, if he wants to marry a Japanese woman and live in Japan long term, the first step should be getting into Japan, not finding a woman. Not only is there a bigger pool to choose from, but until he stays in Japan long-term, how can he know he wants to live there? Therefore, if he's feeling lonely, he'd be getting more bang (heh, see what I did there?) for his buck looking locally, whatever kinds of people they may be.

Gross.

Trust me I like all asian women, however if I were to marry a chinese, or vietnamese women(some of the most beautiful women by the way, even more so than Japanese), I doubt they would want to move to Japan.

[Zgarbas]

You know mail-order brides are seriously done in the US, like 6500 per year. It also has low divorce rate, mainly because the brides are willing to be seen as "exotic" and be elevated housewives... I'm sure you could find one which would be willing to move to Japan. Lots of chinese girls on the market, too!

Zon70 Wrote:I was in Japan for a month and a half and couldnt even find a women there, so maybe I can have better chances on the internet.

What gave you that idea? If you struggle finding a Japanese girl in Japan (every other person I see is a woman) then you must be doing something wrong.

aphasiac Wrote:Plentyoffish has single girls from all over the world (Japan included) and it's free:
http://www.pof.com

Not sure how good this one is, but I've seen it mentioned/used on the gaijinpot forums:
http://www.japancupid.com

Just checked out these two and the latter has heaps of Japanese girls, shouldn't be too hard to meet someone on there.

Edit: On closer inspection, it would seem the foreigners outnumber the Japanese; lots of Wapanese on there.

Admin: I think this thread deserves a sticky

Holy shit.

There goes another bit of my faith in humanity.