NoSleepTilFluent Wrote:Grab her hand and walk to the hotel she knows what's up and if things were going well she won't resist much.

umm...

Thanks guys.

NoSleepTilFluent Wrote:And take things slow?! ehh I've had that yes but it's rare really. I always have a plan on several places to take them on dates even if I'm not that great at the language. Leading girls is attractive. Just try to give them an excuse such as「行こう！一緒に歩きたい。」 Grab her hand and walk to the hotel she knows what's up and if things were going well she won't resist much.

It's way easier to just club her over the head, and drag her into an alley. Added benefits of this method include not paying for a hotel and she doesn't have the opportunity to resist.

KMDES Wrote:

NoSleepTilFluent Wrote:

dizmox Wrote:Well, no more than making conversation and showing up to dates.

Truth.

Don't forget dealing with the red hot molten crazy that spews from them like a violent volcano every once in a while. (Just kidding, though I do have to deal with this often enough... x_X)

I thought we were talking about getting girlfriends, not keeping them.

Blahah Wrote:

NoSleepTilFluent Wrote:And take things slow?! ehh I've had that yes but it's rare really. I always have a plan on several places to take them on dates even if I'm not that great at the language. Leading girls is attractive. Just try to give them an excuse such as「行こう！一緒に歩きたい。」 Grab her hand and walk to the hotel she knows what's up and if things were going well she won't resist much.

It's way easier to just club her over the head, and drag her into an alley. Added benefits of this method include not paying for a hotel and she doesn't have the opportunity to resist.

ahah 痴漢　way^^

This makes me wonder: What kind of guys have gotten into this forum?

jettyke Wrote:This makes me wonder: What kind of guys have gotten into this forum?

probably the ones without japanese girlfriends

Blahah Wrote:It's way easier to just club her over the head, and drag her into an alley.

Now we finally see why...

A good instructional video.

@ Jatepola: Do you mean it seriously? You are from Spain - so why don't you just hang out in tourist spots? Many J-women visit Spain. It depends of course of where exactly you are located. You may also find J-women learning Spanish at the local language school or university. Try also attending meetups about Japanese-Spanish exchange - google "meetup", you might find something in your area. You might also want to try Internet chat rooms, but there is little possibility you might connect with someone you can meet in your area that way.

Another possibility would be to post an ad to find a language partner, but I wouldn't recommend that as a way to start for a romantic relationship.

In any case, it is a fact that there are not many Japanese living abroad - except for large metropolis and spots like Hawaii, so going to Japan might be the best way of achieving your goal, if you're serious about it... Good luck!

the term "J-women" makes me laugh for some reason

How about 日女 then? `-)

Has anyone else discussed moving in together with someone from Japan? (to your home country)

My current girlfriend seems quite worried about leaving Japan so I'm not sure how that's going to pan out. :/

"A good instructional video."

Ahaha, he is so excited. XD

Being western looking is enough to get certain kinds of women, but they usually have issues causing their flight from Japanese guys, they just want to study English, or they're just really easy.

It will still give you an in with other women, but you'd better speak Japanese and not be weird to get anywhere with a girl who is normal.

Really it's not hard to get a Japanese girlfriend. Not because they love westerners or because they are yellow cabs, but because there are so many perfectly attractive single girls here thanks to the 'vegetarian men' phenomenon. Having the slightest bit of confidence makes you a virtual don juan. Young men are also usually too overworked to spend much time pursuing romance. I actually can't remember the last time I met an unmarried woman with a boyfriend, unless you count the university student who was buying me shots for no apparent reason and telling me she was single until her friend came by and told her not to cheat :O

I broke up with my last girlfriend a bit less than a month ago and am already casually dating ~four women I've met since. (This is socially acceptable here until you propose "going steady") ...and I don't even do much nanpa, play the wacky gaijin role, or buy affection by paying her half on the date. No chloroform either. Street nanpa of the "let's take a walk" variety is kind of pathetic, have some pride and/or standards :p

I wouldn't want any girl who would follow a random gaijin to a rabuho soon after meeting though, at least not as a girlfriend anyways. As one of my friends says: if you didnt have to work for it, it's not worth anything. 性病注意

Jarvik7 Wrote:I wouldn't want any girl who would follow a random gaijin to a rabuho soon after meeting though, at least not as a girlfriend anyways. As one of my friends says: if you didnt have to work for it, it's not worth anything. 性病注意

Wise words but if you don't do it how do you weed out those that would go for it?

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KMDES Wrote:I don't get why people leave their shoes on at all. I live in Canada and 99% of the homes I've been in are 'shoes off' homes. Who wants to clean more often due to outside shoes being used?

I've never seen anyone who DOESN'T take off their shoes.

That's just crazy. I don't wear shoes, or usually even socks in my house...

I regularly wear shoes and or socks in my house, because it's comfortable; it doesn't make a big difference towards how often I need to vacuum. Don't be dissing on we shoe wearers.

It's also very impractical to be constantly tying and untying your shoe laces.

dizmox Wrote:Has anyone else discussed moving in together with someone from Japan? (to your home country)

My current girlfriend seems quite worried about leaving Japan so I'm not sure how that's going to pan out. :/

Well, I moved in with my girlfriend over a year ago. However, we live in Japan and have no particular plans to leave. We have even talked about someday moving to her home town. That being said the woman she just replaced in her new job moved to Canada to be with her new Canadian husband, so it does happen. I think you both should talk about what you want for the future and why going to your home country is more important or easy or whatever than you both staying here. So what benefit is it for you guys to go to your country rather than Japan? Career etc? It's a big step to follow someone to a new city let alone a new country. Have you ever talked about marriage? These are things you should discuss and come to agreeance on I think. Of course, if you cannot agree on a future together then it might be best to learn this now and not later.

thurd Wrote:

Jarvik7 Wrote:I wouldn't want any girl who would follow a random gaijin to a rabuho soon after meeting though, at least not as a girlfriend anyways. As one of my friends says: if you didnt have to work for it, it's not worth anything. 性病注意

Wise words but if you don't do it how do you weed out those that would go for it?

Yeah, seriously, I would never consider having a relationship with all the guys who took me home the first night. I mean, what losers. Obviously no self respect.

I also wouldn't seriously date someone who wears shoes indoors. wth? He probably comes from one of those backward colonies that haven't discovered slip on shoes yet. Or else they weren't properly taught to retie their own shoes. Antipodeans... ;p

[In fairness to J7, he gets the big picture and I respect that he's able and willing to consider it from different perspectives with humour.]

@OP, the Laneway Lothario sidetracked us. I hope you're living somewhere that you'll be able to make Japanese friends and perhaps meet someone you like. :-)

Thora Wrote:I also wouldn't seriously date someone who wears shoes indoors. wth? He probably comes from one of those backward colonies that haven't discovered slip on shoes yet. Or else they weren't properly taught to retie their own shoes.

Shoes with laces ftw.

haha. Do shitkicking cowboy boots come with laces there? How about the capitalist gucci loafers? Wait...what ARE you doing in Adelaide?

Living a peaceful suburban life in my laced sandshoes. Ironically, I live next to the beach and it's surprising how unfit sandshoes are for sand
This adoption of the Japanese custom must be a Canadian phenomenon, because in most parts of the west people certainly do wear their shoes inside.

I sometimes secretly wear shoes indoors if I realize that I forgot my cell or something after putting on my shoes. My place is all hardwood though. Carpet/tatami = no way.

@Thora: Yeah those girls may just be looking for some no-strings action, but numerous horror stories from friends who go dragnet fishing like that suggest that it ends up otherwise much of the time. Usually with the girl cutting up all his clothes with scissors or otherwise being somewhat insane and stalkerish. I guess the key is to really only make it a one time thing. Hell, use a fake name. I suggest Seymour Butts.

I said it was pathetic because street nanpa "artists" get shot down so many times before they get a bite and I feel embarrassed for my gender when I see one following a girl down the street begging her to stop as she ignores him. There is nothing wrong with some no-strings fun if both sides know the score and you don't demean yourself to get it.

dat5h Wrote:

dizmox Wrote:Has anyone else discussed moving in together with someone from Japan? (to your home country)

My current girlfriend seems quite worried about leaving Japan so I'm not sure how that's going to pan out. :/

Well, I moved in with my girlfriend over a year ago. However, we live in Japan and have no particular plans to leave. We have even talked about someday moving to her home town. That being said the woman she just replaced in her new job moved to Canada to be with her new Canadian husband, so it does happen. I think you both should talk about what you want for the future and why going to your home country is more important or easy or whatever than you both staying here. So what benefit is it for you guys to go to your country rather than Japan? Career etc? It's a big step to follow someone to a new city let alone a new country. Have you ever talked about marriage? These are things you should discuss and come to agreeance on I think. Of course, if you cannot agree on a future together then it might be best to learn this now and not later.

Oh, I just wanted to add that if you really love her and want to be together, definitely make these talks fun and exciting about the future. No need to make it a referendum

dizmox Wrote:Has anyone else discussed moving in together with someone from Japan? (to your home country)

My current girlfriend seems quite worried about leaving Japan so I'm not sure how that's going to pan out. :/

You got back together? That's good

Anyway your query really should be separated into 2 issues:

1) Her leaving Japan to come live in the UK (what's she going to do here?)
2) Moving in together.

For first part, assuming she's moving to London, then plenty of Japanese people to hang with and places to go. She's just got to decide what to do here - study or work. If latter, visa issues; is she going find a place with Japanese company here, or are you going to get married? Her English skills come into play here.

Moving in together - no tips there, it just works or it doesn't. Guess you already tried it out when you visited her in Japan, but long term it's a bit more trying. Just make sure you live in a place you both like, and have separate lives/hobbies, otherwise you'll go mental within a month or two.

I'm doing the same remember - moving to Taiwan to live with my girlfriend later this year. But we already live together, so 2) is solved (and we have fully discussed 1)). You need to talk about this properly, communication is key..