chamcham Wrote:Minna,

I could tell you where I get all my Japanese lady "friends", but then I'd have to kill you.... :-)

where?

Tzadeck Wrote:

TheVinster Wrote:

Tzadeck Wrote:I dated a girl I met on sharedtalk, haha.

I met a Japanese friend on sharedtalk and then gained communication to a girl he knew, whom I spoke with for 5 months and then she visited me for 5 days. Now I'm in the phase where she went back to Japan, has a boyfriend, and I no longer have a girl to spend time with, but miss her affection. Silly sharedtalk!

If it makes you feel better, I'm pissed at my ex right now (I wasn't mad at her when we first broke up, since it was mostly due to her moving for her job).

Speaking of girlfriends and jobs:

my girlfriend: "I'm being lazy and not looking for jobs"
me: "that's okay, you can move here and be my housewife"
her: "I can't get married before getting work experience"
me: "then look for a job"
her: "there are no jobs here"
me: "you said you weren't looking"
her: "I don't know what I want to do"

Driving me up the wall |:

dizmox Wrote:

Tzadeck Wrote:

TheVinster Wrote:I met a Japanese friend on sharedtalk and then gained communication to a girl he knew, whom I spoke with for 5 months and then she visited me for 5 days. Now I'm in the phase where she went back to Japan, has a boyfriend, and I no longer have a girl to spend time with, but miss her affection. Silly sharedtalk!

If it makes you feel better, I'm pissed at my ex right now (I wasn't mad at her when we first broke up, since it was mostly due to her moving for her job).

Speaking of girlfriends and jobs:

my girlfriend: "I'm being lazy and not looking for jobs"
me: "that's okay, you can move here and be my housewife"
her: "I can't get married before getting work experience"
me: "then look for a job"
her: "there are no jobs here"
me: "you said you weren't looking"
her: "I don't know what I want to do"

Driving me up the wall |:

good god. I feel for you. It happens all too often(random mood swings? Or maybe that just shows how crazy girls are(no offense in any way/shape or form).

chamcham Wrote:Minna,

I could tell you where I get all my Japanese lady "friends", but then I'd have to kill you.... :-)

He specifically asked me to pass his details on to anyone else who wanted to study

and dizmox am I right in thinking this is a long distance relationship you have going on?

Yeah, but we're graduating in a year's time so I'd like to move in together some time after that. I'm not sure how deeply she's thought that plan through though...

Damn it, guys.

I decided to quickly check out sharedtalk.com and now it's at least 3 hours after I should have gone to bed and I'm still on it.

Ryuujin27 Wrote:Damn it, guys.

I decided to quickly check out sharedtalk.com and now it's at least 3 hours after I should have gone to bed and I'm still on it.

addiction is a dangerous thing....jk

lokideviluk Wrote:

chamcham Wrote:Minna,

I could tell you where I get all my Japanese lady "friends", but then I'd have to kill you.... :-)

He specifically asked me to pass his details on to anyone else who wanted to study

and dizmox am I right in thinking this is a long distance relationship you have going on?

I know someone who knows so much japanese people. Both male/females. As for the females, he doesn't date them all at once but he does language "Exchange". Although for him he's more just into that then actually learning the language itself sadly. But can't do anything about that.

Tzadeck Wrote:

TheVinster Wrote:

Tzadeck Wrote:I dated a girl I met on sharedtalk, haha.

I met a Japanese friend on sharedtalk and then gained communication to a girl he knew, whom I spoke with for 5 months and then she visited me for 5 days. Now I'm in the phase where she went back to Japan, has a boyfriend, and I no longer have a girl to spend time with, but miss her affection. Silly sharedtalk!

If it makes you feel better, I'm pissed at my ex right now (I wasn't mad at her when we first broke up, since it was mostly due to her moving for her job).

That sort of helps, haha. I would like to meet more girls on SharedTalk, but it sort of makes me feel like scum. None of them play video games either. :[

just as an update here, I went back to Shared Talk, did up a fairly generic intro and mailed it to about 20 Japanese people and from that got a couple of Japanese girls who I skyped with today.

Since my aim is simply Japanese conversation I'm not in a position to say about the dating aspect of it but just for finding conversation partners it seems solid! Obviously they want to talk in English but I just talk to them in Japanese (they then correct any failings) and they talk to me in English (and i do the same for them).

I do stick my facebook addy on there so they can do the usual photocheck as well though, so maybe that helps? (In respect to the fact that I'm young and not an old guy perving etc)

Works for me

I'm getting like 3 new people wanting to talk to me each day from Japan-Guide (4/5 of them girls...) without doing anything. :/

I don't have time to talk to this many people! Oh well, I'll just keep the ones that are best at flirting. That's what "language exchange" is all about!

You can even search exclusively for (presumably lonely) housewives, if anyone's into that sort of thing.

Haha, I wasn't exactly looking for chicks on SharedTalk. Actually, a girl just messaged me and said "Hey, you live in Kyoto, let's go to this museum in Higashiyama this weekend." But we didn't tell anything about each other, and I didn't know if she was single or even my age, but I went along with it anyway. Turns out she was about my age, and was single, and eventually we were dating (though not for a couple months).

Its not really "meeting" but it is Japanese practice with conversation. I noticed no one mentioned NicoNico's Broadcast section. Its incredibly awesome for just listening to normal conversation Japanese. In fact, they recently added this cool new thing (maybe not new, haha, I just found it): クルーズ　lets you just sit back and jump from stream to stream till you find something cool (read: cute). Been wasting my whole day there lol.

I believe regular people can open up their own broadcasts too but at a limited time block, but I haven't looked into it. I can't believe that every broadcaster pays the monthly fee for premium membership. Foreign girls get lots of great attention, I haven't seen many foreign guys on there though.

all this talk about meeting hot chicks online made me sign up!

haha.

but what do you know, i ended up talking with a 62-year-old japanese guy living in italy about my life, in a sharedtalk chatroom. and his PC didn't have an IME so he had to type in romaaji. story of my life.

kainzero Wrote:all this talk about meeting hot chicks online made me sign up!

haha.

but what do you know, i ended up talking with a 62-year-old japanese guy living in italy about my life, in a sharedtalk chatroom. and his PC didn't have an IME so he had to type in romaaji. story of my life.

LMFAO, your misfortune has made my day (sorry. I'm evil like that).

I'm gonna give sharedtalk a try in the weekend, or when I'm procrastinating my Science work. Has anyone managed to make any awesome male Japanese? Girls are great, but I have never actually had a conversation with a native male speaker before.

Mixi is good. I don't even write diaries and I still get messages all the time from guys and girls who want to be my friend, based on my profile. I ignore most of them since I don't have much free time outside work & hobbies, but I have met about 4 girls offline that I met on mixi.

dizmox Wrote:I'm getting like 3 new people wanting to talk to me each day from Japan-Guide (4/5 of them girls...) without doing anything. :/

Funny enough, even though it's advertised as a "friends and penpals" meetup section, the number of posters on the japan-guide forum who claim to have met their partners on there is ridiculous!

@ta12121; There is an interesting thread on gaijinpot debating whether "language swap" in Japan is normally both parties trying to find a partner. Opinion was decided, BUT don't assume only gaijin go in with ulterior motives..

Well after seeing some of the above posts I had to at least "test" out this Sharedtalk site. I made a decent little intro and then simply copy and pasted it as a private message to several people. I didn't tailor a single word of it to anyone's specific profile. I just now checked my inbox after a few hours of napping and my first impressions? Yeah, it is probably a dating gold mine haha. One girls first response was that she is working in Kyoto right now, and only has the weekends off, so it might be difficult to meet since I live in Tokyo. Second message has a girl implying that we live close and asks if I've gone to eat Korean food in Shinokubo yet (I mentioned I like Korean food in my profile). So yeah, I'm getting the impression that if you live close then meeting these people in real life, if you are looking for that, is going to be a very rapid process.

And hey, who am I to complain?

You lucky people in Japan.

There are no responsive Japanese people here in London it seems.

dizmox Wrote:You lucky people in Japan.

There are no responsive Japanese people here in London it seems.

Try http://www.gumtree.com/london - I've met tons of Japanese language swap partners and email buddies on there, 2 of whom remain really good friends.

Just search for "Japanese" under "community", it is a goldmine.

dizmox Wrote:You lucky people in Japan.

There are no responsive Japanese people here in London it seems.

My Japanese friend just was in London a few months ago and some English speaking guy started talking to him in metro and my friend ended up eating good dinner at his big house, with his family and they went to Sauna or something...was really unexpected for my friend.

Of course my friend speaks good english and that guy spoke good Japanese also(works in Japan or something), so no language barrier.

I just created a profile for later use and within 24h was contacted by a girl looking for a conversation partner. I don't think my Japanese is up to it but being put against the wall always proved to work for me.

Also I wonder how rule number 30 fits into it

jettyke Wrote:My Japanese friend just was in London a few months ago and some English speaking guy started talking to him in metro and my friend ended up eating good dinner at his big house, with his family and they went to Sauna or something...was really unexpected for my friend.

Wait, what kind of "sauna"?! lol that sounds so dodgy :/

Hmm, a bit hard finding people around your age on Gumtree it seems. I'm once again considering doing a PhD in Japan now to get me out of here, lol.

thurd Wrote:I just created a profile for later use and within 24h was contacted by a girl looking for a conversation partner. I don't think my Japanese is up to it but being put against the wall always proved to work for me.

Also I wonder how rule number 30 fits into it

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