aphasiac Wrote:I think the issue is, people tend to post about their current achievements and well they're doing.
Then on the other hand, people doing badly don't post to say how much they suck or to take about how they've failed; instead they make posts asking for advice, which again are responded to by people saying how they're making amazing progress.
This does give an overall impression that everyone is doing amazingly well, or at least alot better than you.
This is how I dealt with it:
-The only failure is failure to invest time.
Too many people say they quit or they didn't do their reps or whatever the reason. Well... obviously, if you don't do your reps, you're not gonna finish RTK. If you can control your time and make sure you study, you'll do fine. I doubt there are many people who've invested hundreds of hours and truly failed to learn anything. And it just seems that people who spend more time, do much better. There's no escaping that.
-Bragging is fun but is often difficult to compare.
Too many people have different accomplishments and different backgrounds, so it's often very difficult to compare yourself with another person.
In Starcraft II I hit Diamond League (which at the time, was *kinda* the highest ranking) fairly quickly and easily and wondered why other people were struggling. I just happened to forget that I tried to play Starcraft Brood War competitively and already had an intuitive feel for all the units, I routinely watch professional Starcraft Brood War, had experience playing games competitively, etc. So I got to Diamond in 2 weeks, and it's easy to see why.
In Japanese study, someone might have lived in Japan, have watched anime for 5 years, etc. etc. so they could pick it up much faster. Maybe they can do certain things better, like read manga, but they can't speak. Maybe they have more free time and don't have to juggle bills/family/marriage. Who knows. The bottom line is that there's so much we can't compare in terms of our own situations, so we can't compare our accomplishments equally well.
-Measure your own progress and use that as judgment for success or failure
Every time I get frustrated that I'm not really learning anything, I pull out something in Japanese that I tried to read last year and try reading it again. Almost all the time, I'll find something that I didn't understand at first, but with my new knowledge, I can understand it now.
Other people have their own ways of measuring things... could be numbers, Anki card reviews, completion of a book, passing JLPT, I don't know. But this is best done by yourself, for yourself.