Ampharos64 Wrote:TheTrueBlue Wrote:After all, every school or workplace has their share of anti-social outcasts, both male and female. And some of those people lessen in their anipathy or awkwardness as they grow and adjust into adults. Hopefully I can meet someone who's decided to give social interactions a second chance, that maybe people aren't as awful as those bullies who 苛め’ｄ her back in high school.
If she's like that (and she might have to be), I warn you, as a social outcast myself, she's not going to be that well adjusted, and I would say that an intense relationship will not necessarily help.
You are right, and I do acknowledge that while some people can adjust well socially when they grow up, many don't. And a relationship certainly has the potential to adversely impact any individual's mental well-being. I'll take on this risk.
Ampharos64 Wrote:Can work, I'm sure, but it's not something I would want to wait and hope for, more something that might find me (though as I said, I personally am not really wanting it to, books and kitties ftw).
I hope it finds you.
You'll enjoy those books and kitties more when you have your dream guy cooking a delicious dinner and preparing a romantic evening for you! (If only he could get you away from those books and kitties!)
Ampharos64 Wrote:I said before that it's probably impossible to accept someone as they are because there's almost certain to be at least one thing about the person that drives you nuts, that's just human.
Hmm, I understand your point more now. Yes, if there was nothing about her that drove me nuts, (like say if she spent all her time with books and kitties and not with poor little old me
), that would be very unusual.
Ampharos64 Wrote:Good Gatsby quote, btw (though, they don't work out...).
Gasp! Don't spoil it for any potential readers! And besides, the moment was sweet when it happened.
Ampharos64 Wrote:Since you're not approaching thirty just yet, would honestly say it might be better to try not to worry too much, and see what happens for a bit (in Japan, if you want).
Yes ma'am, that is the plan.
Fitzgerald wrote:
"The bottle of whiskey--a second one--was now in constant demand by all present, excepting Catherine, who "felt just as good on nothing at all." Tom rang for the janitor and sent him for some celebrated sandwiches, which were a complete supper in themselves. I wanted to get out and walk southward toward the park through the soft twilight, but each time I tried to go I became entangled in some wild, strident argument which pulled me back, as if with ropes, into my chair. Yet high over the city our line of yellow windows must have contributed their share of human secrecy to the casual watcher in the darkening streets, and I was him too, looking up and wondering. I was within and without, simultaneously enchanted and repelled by the inexhaustible variety of life. "
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blackmacros Wrote:willing to accept in your woman that which you have already done yourself.
That's because you are mis-measuring what I've done, I haven't done as much as Mary and her Seven Enchanted Dongs. And I want someone who's the same as me in that regard.
blackmacros Wrote:According to your current list of requirements there should be no distinction between 8 guys and 9 guys (And therefore no distinction between 9 and 10. and 10 and 11. and so on)
Since you insist on this point, I will say that the list ends when I feel she's had way more sexual experience than me (And such criteria of course comes from my own beliefs of what sexual experience is). Such sexual experience can manifest in many forms and with any number of men.
blackmacros Wrote:ever changing, self referential measurement of "no more than me".
It's not ever changing because the "count" or "measure" stops when I meet her. If I've seen 12 girls by the time I meet her, then, by all accounts, certainly (since you persist at this) 12 guys is fine.
blackmacros Wrote:What if it takes you 20 years to find this girl, and you've been with 100 women by then? Is a girl who has been with 100 men acceptable then, but not right now since you've only been with 8? Is there a line at which she moves from "virgin but acceptable" to "virgin but unacceptable"?
I don't plan at all to spend 20 years at this, not 15 or even 10. And the line is where it was in the beginning: I want someone who's had about as much experience as myself.
If I've been with "100 women" as you write, by the time I meet this unusual girl, and she's been with "100 guys" or thereabouts, but was everything else I wanted, the sweet, kind and caring girl I pray for, then by all rights I will say yes. Especially since I've been through "100 women" already and haven't found my girl. I can't imagine being able to stand being alone till then.
Holy christ, I give my hypothetical self serious props for determination and perserverance.
The line from "virgin but acceptable" as you write it, to "virgin but unacceptable", as you write it, is when I feel like she's someone who has had enough sexual experience to merit having "more" sexual experience than me. It could be a number, or intensity, or even something she says (although I seriously doubt this last one, she'd have to talk like Mary of Seven Enchanted Dongs fame or worse).
Then she would not be meeting that
ONE PARTICULAR TRAIT THAT I LISTED. And I don't demand everything on the list, although I certainly wouldn't complain a millisecond if I was blessed with it.
blackmacros Wrote:There's nothing wrong with hypocrisy, nor with logical inconsistencies, they are a part of everyday life. But its important to analyse them and understand *why* we continue to sustain them.
I agree, they are both everyday occurences, as well as opportunities to grow and learn.
blackmacros Wrote:I don't believe you have done that.
I don't need to if the case at present indicates to me that I haven't done anything of the sort. If the evidence presented does, then I of course admit my fallacy and would be grateful to those who took me off the wrong train of thought.
Evil_Dragon Wrote:Yonosa Wrote:"For Japanese, dating consists mainly of walking side-by-side."
This is bloody hilarious.
Be sure to check out the other Japanese Tradition videos. I especially like the Sushi video.
Those videos are awesome!
my flesh... It burnsssssss
