parasitius Wrote:Okay rule #1 is: either get a monolingual or forget it. If you get one that speaks English, most of the time you are both going to take the path of least resistance and speak English and then you are going to end up resenting her for it! It will be lame, so forget it.

I can see the blog posts now:

"Why Monolingual Girlfriends Are Worth Your Time!"

"How To Make the Transition to Monolingual Girlfriends!"

Nukemarine Wrote:Well, that depends. Can you change your accent that easily without constant attention? I think Mel Gibson completely voided his Australian, but Swarzenegger kept a strong portion of his (to bring about two well known examples).

Subconscious habits like accents are difficult to change, but not impossible. That said, you kind of made a good point that fluent feminized Japanese is better than little to no Japanese.

PS: I'm not learning much Japanese from the Japanese lady I'm seeing now. I prefer to think I'm learning cultural things from her instead. That said, I'm saying "Gomen" a bit too much now, which is something she says alot.

On the other hand, she felt embarrassed about how high my kanji writing ability was compared to her that she did go out and buy a kanji study guide. Luckily, I convinced her that Kanji was my hobby, much like Flamenco was her hobby. I'm not expecting her to have my level of something I'm actively studying, nor should she expect me to learn to dance.

It's a hell of a lot easier to switch up masculine/feminine speech than it is to alter your deeply ingrained speech patterns.

Btw, you meant Arnold = Austrian right?

I also learn from a Japanese wife, and it's not a big of a deal that people make it out to be here. But then again I live in Japan and have exposure from a variety of sources. Still the wife is by far my main source of interaction.

Heck I know native Japanese little girls who use 僕 mistakenly and get laughed at.

Mcjon1 Wrote:I can see the blog posts now:

"Why Monolingual Girlfriends Are Worth Your Time!"

"How To Make the Transition to Monolingual Girlfriends!"

Thanks for the chuckle

or

"Monolingual GF vs SRS - getting the most efficient use of your time - a mathematical approach"

timcampbell Wrote:"Monolingual GF vs SRS - getting the most efficient use of your time - a mathematical approach"

In my experience, you can only get so far with a girlfriend before conversations get redundant. Of course I usually date the model type so I don't get high level conversations very often. Girls I date talk about their daily lives or their friends 99% of the time.

Monolingual gf + SRS to fill in the gaps is a pretty good combo, imo, unless you pick up brainy chicks who are scholars and can talk on many subjects, then you may still need SRS to figure out what she's saying!