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Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - bcrAn - 2011-09-07
For those of you married to a Japanese significant other, how's been your relationship with your in-laws? are they disappointed that you are not Japanese?
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - Hashiriya - 2011-09-07
No problems here... They say that my wife can do whatever or marry whomever she wants. I stayed with them for 3 months this past summer and didn't have any problems at all.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - dizmox - 2011-09-07
Still unwed here but my girlfriend's mum likes me I think. I think her dad would hate me if he knew we were living in sin together during vacations.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - Hashiriya - 2011-09-07
Hmmm I find it to be just the opposite.. I thought it was naturally assumed that if you are dating someone in Japan that you are screwing around.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - dizmox - 2011-09-07
Her and her mum are always conspiring to keep the fact that we're staying together a secret from her dad. They prodded me at the table once for accidentally almost blowing it. |:
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - bcrAn - 2011-09-08
I was imagining something like the parents being ashamed of their daughters or something lol. This is good.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - mutley - 2011-09-08
I think most Japanese in-laws tend to be more worried about your career plans/potential earning power, than whether you are Japanese are not.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - Tzadeck - 2011-09-08
I dated a Japanese girl for a year who never told her parents we were dating. Apparently she had dated a foreigner before, and they weren't okay with it because they were afraid she'd move away from Japan forever.
Now I'm kinda seeing a girl whose parents are the opposite--they want her to marry and live abroad so they can visit often!
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - bcrAn - 2011-09-08
@Tzadeck lol
So basically they want a guy with money making potential. That doesn't sound so different from most of the western world I know of.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - mutley - 2011-09-08
Yeah I guess the money thing is the same as any Western country but often more so. It's kind of understandable though considering the gap in wages between men and women in Japan, which means the pressure is always going to be more on the man to be the main bread-winner.
My girlfriend's mother knew we were dating from quite early on but they didn't tell her father until after a year. They didn't think he'd react too well, but in the end he's been completely fine with it. I think he just likes having someone around to the house to drink with (the first time we met was actually accidently at a bar through a mutual friend; it's a small town).
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - TheVinster - 2011-09-08
Not to go far off-topic, but for all you people married to a Japanese spouse, did they integrate well into your family as well? I imagine I'll probably marry a Japanese woman someday, but everybody in my family pretty much dates within our race (which I'm white). Just wondering if it went well both ways for you.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - julianjalapeno - 2011-09-08
I`ve been with my girlfriend for almost three years now and her parents dont even know about me. Her dad is pretty old so it might put him in the ground if he found out.
Relationship with your in-laws: Married to a Japanese - bcrAn - 2011-09-08
@julianjalapeno That's better, unless you want to marry I guess.