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Love in Japan... - Ben_Nielson - 2009-07-16
TheTrueBlue, you're either not a real person, lying like crazy, or setting yourself up for the biggest disappointment anyone has ever experienced.
No young man who hasn't had sex gets into bed with a beautiful woman, fools around, and then leaves so as to avoid ruining some mythical perfect moment of first-time sex that he's built up in his mind.
The internet allows people to get away with saying some truly crazy things.
Anyways, I haven't been trollish on the internet in a while. Feels good.
I just couldn't believe how incredibly ridiculous the things you were saying were. Maybe you believe those things, I guess. But as I said, if all of that somehow happens to be true (and you are indeed the most unique person in the world), you're in for the biggest disappointment ever. Sex is awesome, but not 10% of what you're making it out to be.And I'm a romantic at heart. Jesus christ...
Love in Japan... - Tzadeck - 2009-07-16
nadiatims Wrote:Being a noob isn't optional.Nice, nice. It's completely true, because doing a physical action ALWAYS involves skill sets that learning or thinking about that action don't build up. Reading books on the guitar, buying those silly guitar magazines, listening to great players, these all help your guitar playing--as long as you're actually also playing the guitar sometimes!
Likewise, reading silly Starcraft forums before you go and play Starcraft will not save you from sucking in your first few THOUSAND games. Being a noob isn't optional, true indeed.
You could say that Starcraft and the guitar are more complex skill sets than sex, and they are, but sex is still complex enough that there's no way you're going to be amazing--or even good--on your first try.
Anyway, looking at the first time as hugely important looks to me like disguised puritanism.
Love in Japan... - Tobberoth - 2009-07-16
welldone101 Wrote:And how would they know? They are completely ignorant of how good sex COULD be because they've never tried anything else. Ignorance is bliss for some people, I guess.Tobberoth Wrote:I don't really get people who are virgins and want to find virgins to marry. Your sex life will be horrible. Great to share a first time with someone, but sex keeps a relationship alive and it will definitely be stale when two people has never tried anything with others.I don't really care if people do this or don't do this, but I just wanted to chime in and dispel this myth. It is not stale when two people have never tried anything with others and then you get married. Also you can say that sex keeps the relationship alive, but the opposite is equally true. They are symbiotic and I think you have to have both.
Love in Japan... - liosama - 2009-07-16
Tzadeck Wrote:Likewise, reading silly Starcraft forums before you go and play Starcraft will not save you from sucking in your first few THOUSAND games. Being a noob isn't optional, true indeed.Teamliquid.net ?
Love in Japan... - Tzadeck - 2009-07-16
liosama Wrote:Teamliquid.net ?Actually, I always preferred gosugamers.net in the good old days. It seems to be down right now for whatever reason. Teamliquid was up there on the good websites though. For the record, I still sucked for many many games despite reading those websites through and through for advice.
This kinda makes me want to fire up an old Nada or Savior game... or a Nada VS Savior game. Mua ha ha.
Okay, done dorking out.
Love in Japan... - undead_saif - 2009-07-16
Is this something that we are supposed to think about? Isn't it supposed to come naturally?
Love in Japan... - igordesu - 2009-07-16
...this stuff seems to be a touchy subject for some people, lol.
Love in Japan... - kanjiwarrior - 2009-07-16
undead_saif Wrote:Is this something that we are supposed to think about? Isn't it supposed to come naturally?
Love in Japan... - Brittswimmer1y6 - 2009-07-16
I had a girlfriend that was obsessed with dropping everything and clinging on to me. At the beginning it was cute and ok but after a while it really started to f*ckin suck. It was like a leech clinging onto you at all times bringing you down. As an added bonus I, who still cared for her, got to see her further education go down the drain, her mental health go down the drain, and a lot of her goals in life go down the drain.
She literally wanted to become one with me. That's not how relationships are supposed to last, that true love (giving up everything including your abstract possessions) drives people to the point of madness. Relationships are two people that are two people. Notice I said people, not two organisms that need each other to survive. You should still retain your individuality.
ごめん for the random tangent
Love in Japan... - Brittswimmer1y6 - 2009-07-16
kanjiwarrior Wrote:http://undead_saif Wrote:Is this something that we are supposed to think about? Isn't it supposed to come naturally?
DUN DUN DUNN!?!?!??!!?!?
*落雷*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love in Japan... - Tobberoth - 2009-07-16
Brittswimmer1y6 Wrote:I had a girlfriend that was obsessed with dropping everything and clinging on to me. At the beginning it was cute and ok but after a while it really started to f*ckin suck. It was like a leech clinging onto you at all times bringing you down. As an added bonus I, who still cared for her, got to see her further education go down the drain, her mental health go down the drain, and a lot of her goals in life go down the drain.I know how you feel. My current girlfriend (Korean) has a tendency to prioritize me over EVERYTHING else. School, work, friends, family. Not that it doesn't have good sides and is flattering, but it's dangerous and indeed not how relationships should work.
She literally wanted to become one with me. That's not how relationships are supposed to last, that true love (giving up everything including your abstract possessions) drives people to the point of madness. Relationships are two people that are two people. Notice I said people, not two organisms that need each other to survive. You should still retain your individuality.
ごめん for the random tangent
Love in Japan... - Brittswimmer1y6 - 2009-07-16
Tobberoth Wrote:Yeah it was flattering and was fun until I went back to university and that's when I found out that she had placed everything on me and that she literally depended on me. I guess that's something I learned from that failure, set up boundaries first or they'll come back to haunt you through the means of daily 6 hour phone calls.Brittswimmer1y6 Wrote:I had a girlfriend that was obsessed with dropping everything and clinging on to me. At the beginning it was cute and ok but after a while it really started to f*ckin suck. It was like a leech clinging onto you at all times bringing you down. As an added bonus I, who still cared for her, got to see her further education go down the drain, her mental health go down the drain, and a lot of her goals in life go down the drain.I know how you feel. My current girlfriend (Korean) has a tendency to prioritize me over EVERYTHING else. School, work, friends, family. Not that it doesn't have good sides and is flattering, but it's dangerous and indeed not how relationships should work.
She literally wanted to become one with me. That's not how relationships are supposed to last, that true love (giving up everything including your abstract possessions) drives people to the point of madness. Relationships are two people that are two people. Notice I said people, not two organisms that need each other to survive. You should still retain your individuality.
ごめん for the random tangent
Back to that Confucius quote as well as the OP: Be wise, learn from my failure.
Also to the OP: Man who has hand in pocket, feel cocky all day.
Remember that proverb well my friend, for it has no significance to anything and it's a double entendre.
Love in Japan... - dat5h - 2009-07-16
Here's to Confakanism,
Life is like game of bridge, either need good partner or good hand
Love in Japan... - Brittswimmer1y6 - 2009-07-16
dat5h Wrote:Here's to Confakanism,Nice one! I'll raise:
Life is like game of bridge, either need good partner or good hand
Man who sit on toilet is high on pot.
Love in Japan... - bodhisamaya - 2009-07-16
kanjiwarrior Wrote:Geeee!undead_saif Wrote:Is this something that we are supposed to think about? Isn't it supposed to come naturally?
If you had posted this earlier we could have saved ten pages of debate :/
Love in Japan... - Tobberoth - 2009-07-16
I always liked
It is good for girl to meet boy in park, but better for boy to park meat in girl.
Love in Japan... - Nukemarine - 2009-07-16
I think my current wife prioritizes well (yes, current. Like Bohdisamaya, I've been married three times) . She balances work, friends and hobbies in a way I could not do. How she fit me in all that is anyone's guess. From the list on a previous page, I guess she counts as a cosmopolitan type.
PS: This has been an interesting thread, with some low points but enlightening high points.
Love in Japan... - Brittswimmer1y6 - 2009-07-16
Tobberoth Wrote:I always likedFoolish man bring wife grand piano, wise man bring wife large organ.
It is good for girl to meet boy in park, but better for boy to park meat in girl.
Love in Japan... - bodhisamaya - 2009-07-16
dat5h Wrote:Here's to Confakanism,#10- "My wife says that I don't listen. At least I think that's what she said."
Life is like game of bridge, either need good partner or good hand
#9- I need someone really bad. Are you really bad?
#8- An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have: The older she gets, the more interested he is in her
#7- Menstruation, menopause, mental breakdowns... Ever notice how all women’s problems begin with men?
#6- I almost had a psychic girlfriend, but she left me before we met
#5- A woman's favorite position is CEO
#4- The woman who thinks no man is good enough for her may be right.... But she is more often left.
#3- To find out a girl's faults, praise her to her girlfriends. (Benjamin Franklin)
#2- No husband has ever been shot while doing the dishes
#1- Save a tree. Eat a beaver.
Love in Japan... - kanjiwarrior - 2009-07-16
bodhisamaya Wrote:#3- To find out a girl's faults, praise her to her girlfriends. (Benjamin Franklin)Benjamin Franklin was quite the ladies man apparently he's got some interesting advice about women, I never learned anything about that side of him in school of coarse... or I'd have been a lot more interested in American History.
Love in Japan... - Musashi - 2009-07-16
The yellow fever is raging in here!
Love in Japan... - Yinake - 2009-07-16
Musashi Wrote:The yellow fever is raging in here!So far this thread has had a refreshing lack of, "I liek azn grrlz bcuz of there tite pu$$ies".
....Please don't take it as an incentive, guys. XD;
Love in Japan... - kazelee - 2009-07-16
Musashi Wrote:The yellow fever is raging in here!LOL. Weren't you just crying racist, though?
Love in Japan... - Musashi - 2009-07-16
Yinake Wrote:Did you actually read the thread and title?Musashi Wrote:The yellow fever is raging in here!So far this thread has had a refreshing lack of, "I liek azn grrlz bcuz of there tite pu$$ies".
....Please don't take it as an incentive, guys. XD;
Love in Japan... - Musashi - 2009-07-16
kazelee Wrote:erhm...how is that racist?Musashi Wrote:The yellow fever is raging in here!LOL. Weren't you just crying racist, though?