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Suggestion for administration of the site.... - john555 - 2015-10-04
This is a suggestion for whoever goes onto the site and "closes off" a topic (because they don't like it?). I would prefer that the whole thread be deleted, because at the particular point where you decide to "close off" the thread, the last poster gets the last word and further responses are impossible. I would rather just have the whole thread gone.
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - Roketzu - 2015-10-04
If someone wants to continue the conversation they could PM the person after the topic has been closed. This is what mods on another site I use encourage upon locking, they rarely delete threads unless its spam. Maybe the mods here would be open to your suggestion, though.
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - sholum - 2015-10-04
john555 Wrote:This is a suggestion for whoever goes onto the site and "closes off" a topic (because they don't like it?). I would prefer that the whole thread be deleted, because at the particular point where you decide to "close off" the thread, the last poster gets the last word and further responses are impossible. I would rather just have the whole thread gone.I'm inclined to agree. I think the thread should disappear just because it's irrelevant to this forum, sans the first few posts (which quickly went on a tangent). I wouldn't want any newcomers to the forum to stumble upon that as their first impression of us (we have enough heated (and occasionally aggressive) arguments as it is, they might as well be on topic).
The only reservation I have is of being called a coward who wants to censor it because I got defeated by the righteous progressive (going to progress right off a cliff with that attitude, lol). I am a little disappointed I didn't get the chance to stick a bunch of links to progressive sites to illustrate my point, but what's done is done, and I'm glad to see it dead.
@Zgarbas (if you see this)
Reflecting, I think I was a little harsh to you; I know it's nigh impossible to moderate that kind of thread in a way that satisfactory to all sides. I was genuinely concerned that this situation would become another one where views that aren't progressive enough would be censored, but you handled things quite well, I think, even though our opinions on the matter differed.
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - CreepyAF - 2015-10-04
As the OP of that thread, I wish there was some way to preserve the on topic discussion. :/
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - qwertyytrewq - 2015-10-04
I still wanted to know why it is "depressing" for a male adult (lets say Caucasian) to target/aim for an Asian female (lets say Japanese). :-(
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - Flamerokz - 2015-10-04
CreepyAF Wrote:As the OP of that thread, I wish there was some way to preserve the on topic discussion. :/Haha welcome to koohii - the land of offtopic
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - kapalama - 2015-10-04
qwertyytrewq Wrote:I still wanted to know why it is "depressing" for a male adult (lets say Caucasian) to target/aim for an Asian female (lets say Japanese). :-(Because getting other'd the ***** out of being able to live your life is like a slow death. Asian women often cannot walk don't the street, cannot go out in an open convertible, etc etc.wihout getting hassled to the point of fear. They are not even slightly interested in *why* they get hassled everywhere they go; they are only interested in it stopping, in the same way that black people who get their hair touched constantly wish it would stop.
Being treated like a receptacle for someone else's fetishistic interests is a reminder that who you are does not matter; only what archetype you recall to the person who has you locked in their "male gaze."
That's why it is depressing.
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - kapalama - 2015-10-04
john555 Wrote:This is a suggestion for whoever goes onto the site and "closes off" a topic (because they don't like it?). I would prefer that the whole thread be deleted, because at the particular point where you decide to "close off" the thread, the last poster gets the last word and further responses are impossible. I would rather just have the whole thread gone.Would it might help to think that the "last word" matters not at all?
Would it help if you instead thought of it as the person who spoke last finally said something so ridiculous that the mods had to put a stop to things?
The conversation had run its course, and 'gone off topic' because there is no way to not talk about race when talking about cultural appropriation. But of course there is a limit to how far any discussion of race can go, and remain civil. It reached that limit for me pretty quickly, but there still interesting ideas running for a while, and then there weren't anymore interesting ideas being said.
Suggestion for administration of the site.... - cophnia61 - 2015-10-04
qwertyytrewq Wrote:I still wanted to know why it is "depressing" for a male adult (lets say Caucasian) to target/aim for an Asian female (lets say Japanese). :-(I'm not much interested in that sort of relationship so I can not answer your question, but as I like the japanese language and (many aspect of) the japanese culture, I'm more interested in making japanese friends. So maybe if one loves japanese culture it's expected that him/she is more interested in relationship with japanese people.
I've mostly female friends and they are almost all interested in japanese culture, and they'd love to have a japanese boyfriend. Also if we consider the external appearence, but also the attitude, we must admit that asian people are different from nigerian people, or scandinavian people and so on. A friend of mine is into caraibic dances and she tends to be attracted more by cuban boys. I don't think there is something "depressing" about this. She is free to like who she wants. I don't even think she is a superficial person or things like "oh you like cuban people because they have a big **** you b**ch!" because each individual is free to be anything he or she wants, so if he or she wants to evaluate only the exterior appareance, or financial state, then it is only his/her own business. Why must I judge a whole set of people I don't even know? This is something feminists allways say, and I'm with them. But then I don't understand why if it's a man then it is a feticism. We all have our own ideal of beauty so if a man or a woman is more attracted by asian features I see nothing "depressing" about it.
To say "Did you specifically look for a Japanese wife?" is like to say "did you specifically look for a good-looking boy?".
And to say "Have the idea that a Japanese partner would be your ideal before you'd even met one?" is like to say "Have the idea that a good-looking partner would be your ideal before you'd even met one?".
Obviously we all have our own ideal target, be it "a smart boy" or "a good-looking boy" makes no difference. As for me, external appearence leaves me unaffected but as soon as I know a smart girl I'm gone. But there are other people which values more external appearence, both men and women, and this is why you don't see MANY good looking boys with fat ugly girls and vice versa.
So maybe some people see japanese (latino etc..) features as their beauty standard and they get naturally attracted by them, so it's not a madness to think "I want a japanese boyfriend" if you already know you tend to like them considering every time you see those jpop ikemen your eyes turn to heart-shape ones xD I even have metalhead friends which target specifically dark-looking boys (they must have long black hair, pale skin and so on). I don't see the problem here, as long as the other part is consenting.
If we are talking instead of men which fly to asia to "buy" a bride then what I've said doesn't apply
